Underage Drinking

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Underage Drinking
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:02am

We have friends who find nothing wrong with allowing their 16 year olds to drink. They allow them to have beer pong parties with their friends (because they are doing it in their home) and allow them to try different types of wines (In their words "to make them a connoisseur of wine").

We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk.

What does everyone think of this?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 10:00am

bordwithyou wrote:
<p>Your kids have changed schools way more often than mine, Jam. I don't believe you are harming your kids by having them change schools so often, and deep down inside, i dont think you think my son haBernini harmed by changing schools, either.  i think its just something you like to bring up from time to time in an attempt to jab me. I've never understood why you think my kids' schooling is some kind a debating point, since we're pretty happy with how things have turned out, and you couldn't possibly have a clue how things are turning out.</p><p>And as far as having respect for teachers is concerned, I have way too much respect for the good ones to lump together all teachers or to pretend that the bad ones are anywhere near as worthy of respect as those who excel in their professions.</p>

My kids have changed schools a couple of times, once because they graduated and they don't teach middle/high school at the elementary school and a couple of times because it was the right thing to do at the time.  I don't understand why it would have been better for me as a parent to leave them in a school that wasn't the right fit for them.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:54am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>Normal kid stuff is one thing, To bounce kids back and forth b/w schools is something I don't understand, But hey, I wouldn't call teachers incompetent either. I have more respect for them than that.</p>

I wouldn't understand bouncing kids back and forth between schools either, perhaps they had a good reason? I don't know, my kids have attended very few schools so I'm not familiar with bouncing back and forth or changing schools a lot.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:47am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>If you have kids in sports you know what keeping score is. </p>

You must have misread my comments, I didn't ask what keeping score is, I asked why you are keeping score.  See comments below.

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>This thread has become a scorecard! </p>

Why on earth would you keep score?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:32am

bordwithyou wrote:
I don't think anyone who uses private school is naive enough to believe that the kids there won't try to break rules, push the envelope, do dumb things. I mean, I used private school for nine years and knew every parent of every kid in the upper school. none of us believed that. Kids are kids are kids.

I've used private school for 10 years now and haven't thought that nor have i ever run across anyone who felt that way either.  I have to assume that Hazel must be talking about personal experiences?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:31am

hazeleyes2005 wrote:
Nothing shocks me Pka about kids. Maybe because parents think if they have their kids in private school they wouldnt have to know and deal with things. Same things happen, you are just paying more lol.

OH all kinds of things shock me about kids, even adults.  But your thoughts on parents and private schools is something that I haven't ever heard or experienced, interesting, What is your basis for your thoughts, do you have a number of friends who think that about their kids in private schools?

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:29am

Your kids have changed schools way more often than mine, Jam. I don't believe you are harming your kids by having them change schools so often, and deep down inside, i dont think you think my son haBernini harmed by changing schools, either.  i think its just something you like to bring up from time to time in an attempt to jab me. I've never understood why you think my kids' schooling is some kind a debating point, since we're pretty happy with how things have turned out, and you couldn't possibly have a clue how things are turning out.

And as far as having respect for teachers is concerned, I have way too much respect for the good ones to lump together all teachers or to pretend that the bad ones are anywhere near as worthy of respect as those who excel in their professions.

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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:26am

bordwithyou wrote:
You don't learn, do you Hazel? The reason you are in this mess in the first place is that you dragged people's children into the debate.

Wash, rinse and repeat....

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:23am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p>But it's important that kids become wine conniseurs by the time they finish high school, Lol. </p>

Said, noone ever.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-29-1999
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 9:22am
Incompetents are everywhere. The law of averages suggests they're even (gasp) in the classroom. That isn't disrespectful, it is reality.
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Registered: 12-29-1999
Wed, 02-20-2013 - 8:51am

Morality. It isn't necessarily a good a idea to start judging and attacking others for their parenting decisions when you're married to Swiper the fox....

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