Underage Drinking

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Registered: 04-27-2005
Underage Drinking
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Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:02am

We have friends who find nothing wrong with allowing their 16 year olds to drink. They allow them to have beer pong parties with their friends (because they are doing it in their home) and allow them to try different types of wines (In their words "to make them a connoisseur of wine").

We find this unacceptable as if they are doing it at home, you know they are doing it elsewhere and these kids are able to drive now so I can not believe that none of them ever drive home drunk.

What does everyone think of this?

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 8:16am

  Allowing one's own child an occasion drink is one thing.  It is legal in many states (including my own).  Although I have never done it myself I see no issue with it.

  But what you are talking about is a completly different story, allowing a child and his friends to "party' in their house.  It is not only wrong but stupid.  They are setting themselve up for possible long term jail time.   A few times a year I read stories about people being arrested for supplying alcohol to minors and if that alcohol causes other issues, auto accidents for example the person supplying the alcohol can have a long prison term in front of them. 

 I have never been a believer in the "well at least of they are drinking in my house I know they are safe"  as you point out if they are having parties at home they are probably having them elsewhere.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 10:35am
Completely unacceptable as well as stupid to supply/allow other people's children to drink in your home. I've got way more things to worry about than whether someone allows their own 19 yr old a champagne toast on New Year's Eve or the equivalent.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 10:42am
No, 16 years old, not 19.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 10:51am
Same principle, underage is underage.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 11:01am
True but 16 is high school, 19 is college. Big difference in my book.
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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 11:12am
Some 16 year olds are in college, and some 19 year olds are in high school. And I trust my "friends" to know whether their kids are old enough to handle a taste of alcohol now and again. There are plenty of people whose judgement I do not trust, but they are not, by and large, my friends, and I don't care whether they allow their terms an occasional taste of alcohol before I personally would feel comfortable doing so.
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Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 1:28pm

Maybe I should rephrase that then. The maturity level of MOST 16 year old is less than a 19 year old.

It has nothing to do with the trust in the parents either. Most often it is illegal and again, with kids with cars, there is more of a chance of DWI.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 1:38pm
I'm confused. If you're responding to the context of Bord's posts, she's been discussing *only* the context of a parents permitting their own minor children to drink alcohol in their presence. Which is *mostly* legal in the US. The majority of states have exclusions permitting parents to serve alcohol in their homes to their minor children. Bord never addressed the idea of parents permitting their teens to throw parties were other people's minor children were served alcohol. And that's because Bord specifically spoke against the idea of serving minors--any minors, even 19 year olds--alcohol. So, I'm not really sure what you're trying to argue here.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-27-2005
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 1:41pm
Overall a 16 year old no matter if it is your own child or someone else's.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 02-18-2013 - 1:43pm
So Bord is wrong for saying the same thing YOU are, only she would apply it to all minors and isn't limiting it to 16 year olds? Your argument makes no sense.

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Kitty

"If you can't annoy somebody with what you write, I think there's little point in writing."-- Kingsley Amis, British novelist, 1971 t .

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