Using Humiliation as Punishment?

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Using Humiliation as Punishment?
Mon, 05-20-2013 - 1:51pm

There have been a lot of stories in the news the past year about parents using public humiliation as a punishment tool.  If their kids are going to break the rules, then they are going to let everyone know about it.  With social media, it's pretty easy to have it happen and even go viral across the nation.

The latest is from Utah, a mom found out her 10 year old daughter was bullying another child: 

Kaylee, 10, was teasing another student about her clothes so much that the student wanted to leave school.

So, when Kaylee's mom, Ally, found out she made her daughter wear outfits she picked out at a thrift shop.

Here is a link to the rest of the story, along with photos of the clothes she had to wear to school:

What do you think about this?  Do you think there is a ever a time when this form of punishment could be a good thing? 

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Mon, 05-20-2013 - 2:19pm

I applaud that mom for getting involved and being creative.  I don't see it as humiliation, but more a "walk a mile in her shoes" kind of thing.

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Mon, 05-20-2013 - 2:27pm

I didn't think this was an example of humiliation parenting, like some of the other stories that have been in the news in the past.  I thought it was more of a making her child know how it feels thing.  I don't see anything wrong with it.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Mon, 05-20-2013 - 5:01pm
I err caution on the age of the chld here, What grade is that? 4th? Bullying gets worse in teenage years and I don't think this "humiliation" prepares her at all for what's to come later....... Perhaps mom needs to fasten her own seat belt here.