Vacationing without your kids?

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Vacationing without your kids?
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Mon, 07-15-2013 - 4:33pm

The Today Show brought up the question on whether parents should vacation without their kids:

A sunny beach, a cool drink, a good book, and no kids saying “Mom, watch me build this sand castle.” It’s the recipe for the perfect getaway for some. So should couples try to occasionally recharge their batteries by taking a vacation without the kids?

For every parent who says it’s crucial to spend some time away and travel without the demands of being “Mom” or “Dad,” there’s one who believes children should never be left out of a family trip or who feels tremendous guilt for leaving a baby behind with the grandparents.

And it turns out, neither travel philosophy is a hundred percent “right.”

Read more:  http://www.today.com/moms/should-parents-vacation-without-kids-6C10553731

Would you vacation without your kids?  If so, is there a time frame that would cause you to rethink your POV? 

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Registered: 08-22-2009
Mon, 07-15-2013 - 5:02pm

Our first trip without our kids was our 20th aniversary.  Since then we have gone away the weekend for most of our anniversaries.

We did not take any longer trips without our kids until they were adults.

But that was not because we thought there was anything wrong with taking a vacation without our kids, we did not have anyone to take care of them.  


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Registered: 01-08-2009
Mon, 07-15-2013 - 5:23pm
We didn't have relatives around to watch our kids, and no desire to hire someone to watch them while we vacationed without them. We just had our first solo vacation in 20+ years; it was nice, and part of what made it nice is that we feel like we've largely finished the job we took on when we had kids, so it was "time" for a couples vacation. I don't care what other people do as long as they leave their kids well-cared for!
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Mon, 07-15-2013 - 5:25pm

We took a few trips without the kids. The most memorable was when they were about 5 & 7yo, we got dh's parents to come stay at our house for about 10 days while we went "leaf peeping" in Vermont and Quebec. There were a few other shorter get aways, again with the inlaws providing childcare. We needed a break from being mommy and daddy, and IMO it was good for the kids to be with someone else sometimes. 

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Mon, 07-15-2013 - 6:00pm

I would, and have, vacationed without my kids.   I have vacationed with my kids. My kids have vacationed without me.

I think to *always* vacation without your kids and *never* with would probably not be an ideal parenting technique.   I also think that to *never* vacation without your kids is probably not an ideal marriage technique.

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Mon, 07-15-2013 - 6:13pm

um YEAH.. would and HAVE ....

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Tue, 07-16-2013 - 3:36am
I don't understand why children should have to be included in trips. Grown-up trips are different than trips you take with kids. It is very limited what you can comfortably do with kids along, especially small ones. We did not have good access to childcare, so we only very rarely were able to go somewhere without kiddo, but I don't see anything wrong with it.
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Tue, 07-16-2013 - 8:24am

We haven't, but I don't see a problem with it.

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Tue, 07-16-2013 - 9:32am

Of course I would if I had care I could trust overnight for my kids, that's not in the picture for us.  I don't think we're missing out on much and I certainly don't think a vacation - sans kids - is a make it or break it for a marriage either.  I do, however think couples should have alone time so let's not confuse this with date nights I do think matter, Lol.  

 


 


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Tue, 07-16-2013 - 9:38am

elc11 wrote:
<p>We took a few trips without the kids. The most memorable was when they were about 5 &amp; 7yo, we got dh's parents to come stay at our house for about 10 days while we went "leaf peeping" in Vermont and Quebec. There were a few other shorter get aways, again with the inlaws providing childcare. We needed a break from being mommy and daddy, and IMO it was good for the kids to be with someone else sometimes. </p>

I forgot a time when DH and I did get away, We had just two girls and it was a business trip to Chicago I joined him for, it was a short but nice getaway and his mom did come down to stay with our kids.  

 


 


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Tue, 07-16-2013 - 9:44am

rollmops2009 wrote:
I don't understand why children should have to be included in trips. Grown-up trips are different than trips you take with kids. It is very limited what you can comfortably do with kids along, especially small ones. We did not have good access to childcare, so we only very rarely were able to go somewhere without kiddo, but I don't see anything wrong with it.

Unless you bring a sitter along?  Many years ago I tagged along a trip to HIlton Head with my older cousins and their small children, I was basically the babysitter so they could enjoy some nice dinners out without the kids on that trip.  It was fun and if you can afford to hire someone to go along why wouldn't you?  

 


 


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