Vacationing without your kids?

Avatar for Cmmelissa
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Vacationing without your kids?
20
Mon, 07-15-2013 - 4:33pm

The Today Show brought up the question on whether parents should vacation without their kids:

A sunny beach, a cool drink, a good book, and no kids saying “Mom, watch me build this sand castle.” It’s the recipe for the perfect getaway for some. So should couples try to occasionally recharge their batteries by taking a vacation without the kids?

For every parent who says it’s crucial to spend some time away and travel without the demands of being “Mom” or “Dad,” there’s one who believes children should never be left out of a family trip or who feels tremendous guilt for leaving a baby behind with the grandparents.

And it turns out, neither travel philosophy is a hundred percent “right.”

Read more:  http://www.today.com/moms/should-parents-vacation-without-kids-6C10553731

Would you vacation without your kids?  If so, is there a time frame that would cause you to rethink your POV? 

Pages

Avatar for rollmops2009
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 10:12am
"I was basically the babysitter so they could enjoy some nice dinners out without the kids on that trip. It was fun and if you can afford to hire someone to go along why wouldn't you?" ----------- That can be an option. But if the kids are just going to be at the hotel with the sitter, it seems more reasonable to leave them home. I am not just talking about dinners. It is more about what you do during the day. There is a limit to how far kids can walk, how many museums they can endure etc. So when you travel with kids, you do tend to end up doing some sort of beach or other boring thing, just to make it easier on everyone.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 11:43am

<<Would you vacation without your kids?  If so, is there a time frame that would cause you to rethink your POV? >>

Yes and only if the kids were very young (like infants and nursing) or if there was some other issue, but in general...no, I can't see anything wrong with a vacation without the kids.  

PumpkinAngel

Avatar for rollmops2009
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 1:59pm
Jams, further because it won't let me edit: My parents usually paid people to stay with us, but at home, while they traveled. They did month-long trips to places like Afghanistan and India. Those are the kinds of things that can be quite daunting to do with kids along. One of the trips we did when dd was away at camp was to Albania. Albania is not Afghanistan, but back then it was still pretty wild west and we went for political stuff. Not appropriate for a child in various ways.
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2011
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 2:54pm

We've spent weekends away. 

This seems like one of those comfort level questions. We all have different comfort levels, influenced by our ability to have good child care, age and dependency level of the child(ren), nature of the trip, etc.

My in-laws took a trip to Disney without their kids. To be fair, they are avid park junkies and go at least once a year with the kids. They wanted a trip away and they couldn't think of anywhere else that they'd rather be. 

Avatar for rollmops2009
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 3:19pm
"My in-laws took a trip to Disney without their kids. To be fair, they are avid park junkies and go at least once a year with the kids. They wanted a trip away and they couldn't think of anywhere else that they'd rather be." ---------------- That is hilarious. I know some extremely dear people who are Disney freaks, but I confess that I don't get it. I wouldn't even take the kid.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 3:38pm

There are two couples I work with in their 40s who don't have kids, but go to Disney at least once a year, usually twice.  One of them even has a timeshare there.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 3:46pm

Ohhhh, I wish!LOL

I've never been able to do it, but I don't see a problem with it.


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 3:58pm

rollmops2009 wrote:
"I was basically the babysitter so they could enjoy some nice dinners out without the kids on that trip. It was fun and if you can afford to hire someone to go along why wouldn't you?" ----------- That can be an option. But if the kids are just going to be at the hotel with the sitter, it seems more reasonable to leave them home. I am not just talking about dinners. It is more about what you do during the day. There is a limit to how far kids can walk, how many museums they can endure etc. So when you travel with kids, you do tend to end up doing some sort of beach or other boring thing, just to make it easier on everyone.

Just to be left in a hotel room with a sitter..  That's what you took from my post?  Lol.  IME I stayed with the kids while my cousins enjoyed a nice dinner but most of the time the vacation was spent together.  I was a helping hand and a sitter while they enjoyed some alone time, And it was a win win b/c I not only got paid but got to experience the island for the first time as I had never been there before then, They got the best of both worlds too.  I suppose leaving kids at home is an option which the op hints at as idea too.  I don't think it has to be an either/or though.  

 


 


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-23-2001
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 4:03pm

My dad's credit union has/d these dinners once a year, There were always door prizes and one grand prize.  Dad and mom won the grand prize one year which was a trip to epcot, They added disney to that trip and had a wonderful time. I think that resort is misunderstood by some people and I think Disney is worth the trip if just once.  

 


 


Avatar for rollmops2009
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2009
Tue, 07-16-2013 - 4:30pm
"IME I stayed with the kids while my cousins enjoyed a nice dinner but most of the time the vacation was spent together." ------------ Right, I got it, don't worry. My point, in turn, was that the kinds of trips I would find fun and interesting would not be good trips for kids, even in the daytime. So, if I went on a trip that I would like with a kid and sitter, it would mean the kid and sitter spending most of their time at the hotel or a pool or whatever. I don't need to go on vacation to hire a sitter for a dinner out.

Pages