what is the dad's role in SAHM v WOHM
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|Tue, 12-30-2003 - 10:58pm|
1. If you are a SAHM do you believe your DH has a greater or lesser role in caring for the children and the household than he would if you worked outside the home? If you believe there is a difference, would you chalk it up as a benefit or as a drawback?
2. Same question if you are a WOHM.
3. If you are a SAHM do your children do chores around the house (assuming they are old enough)? If so, which ones: clean their own room, prepare meals, do laundry, participate in cleaning outside their rooms, etc.? Do you believe they do fewer, the same or more chores than they would if you WOH? If there is a difference, would you chalk it up as a benefit or a drawback?
4. Same question if you are a WOHM.
I'll answer for me. While I was married I was SAHM for a year, but most of the time I was a WOHM. In both cases, my NDH (not-dear-husband) did nothing around the house. Neither did the kids but during most of the period of my marriage they were pretty young--6 and 8 when we divorced. Once I was a single parent and WOHM, the kids participated in all chores appropriate to their ages--except neither ever cooked. By the time they were 12 or 13 they did most of their own laundry. So in my case, it appears to have been single-parenthood that made the difference not SAH or WOH. Probably the **only** benefit to having been a single parent is that my kids grew up pretty self-sufficient. But I wonder if you all have any thoughts on this topic.