What do you think about teen sleepovers?

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What do you think about teen sleepovers?
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Tue, 08-13-2013 - 5:04pm

I was reading an interesting article from Huffington Post, the author was discussing how open parents should be with their teen with regards to sex: 

If you aren't comfortable with your own sexuality or challenging deeply-embedded ideas about sex being "bad," can you teach your kids anything different? In defiance of socially conservative mythology, approaches that are positive about sex do not lead to licentiousness, STDs, abortions and despair. On the contrary, the more you teach children about healthy, responsible sex, the more likely they are to treat sex in healthy, responsible ways. In general, they are more knowledgeable, more emotionally mature about it and "safer" in the scary-sex way. 

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/how-do-you-feel-about-sex-and-teenage-sleepovers_b_3744080.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

She does some comparisons between the U.S. and the Netherlands, even how some parents in the Netherlands will allow their teenage children to have sex in their home.  

 Would you want to know your child is having sex, or prefer to remain in the dark?  Would you allow your teen's partner to sleepover in your house? 

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Tue, 08-20-2013 - 6:07am

Lol, Sarah Palin.  What's she up to these days?  I think Fox pulled her now, Poor thing. 

 


 


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Tue, 08-20-2013 - 6:03am

thardy2001 wrote:
<p>Emptynester ~In the case of a prom, it's very possible no one's a minor.  I responded to your question not mentioning the prom, but mentioning a minor ~  <span style="font-family:comic sans ms,sans-serif; font-size:medium">In what way could a parent be held liable for a minor having sex in thier house? </span></p><p>Sorry for the misunderstanding.  I was surprised if you didn't know the law there!  You're a smart girl and don't argue for argument's sake like others here.</p><p>A parent opens himself up to liability whenever statutory rape is committed in his own home.  It's very possible there will be no action taken for obvious reasons.</p>

Really.. Even if it's safe sex and a condom is taken from the drawer there? 

 


 


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Mon, 08-19-2013 - 8:50am

Sarah Palin always delivers.  What a cool, modern ~ liberal? ~ mom for allowing Levi to sleep with her daughter in her own house.  Those crazy teens. 

http://www.nowpublic.com/world/levi-johnston-says-sarah-palin-knew-about-sex-bristol-video

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Mon, 08-19-2013 - 8:38am

Emptynester ~In the case of a prom, it's very possible no one's a minor.  I responded to your question not mentioning the prom, but mentioning a minor ~  In what way could a parent be held liable for a minor having sex in thier house?

Sorry for the misunderstanding.  I was surprised if you didn't know the law there!  You're a smart girl and don't argue for argument's sake like others here.

A parent opens himself up to liability whenever statutory rape is committed in his own home.  It's very possible there will be no action taken for obvious reasons.

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Mon, 08-19-2013 - 8:24am

p>No, of course a parent knowing about and providing clean sheets for the commisson of statutory rape (i.e., of a minor) in his own house necessarily opens himself up to civil and possibly criminal liability.  Anything else is absurd.   </p>[/quote]

Since the discussion was about an after prom party the kids should pretty much all be in the 17-18 year old range so statutory rape should not  be an issue.  All sex between an adult and a minor does not constitute statutory rape,  there usually has to be an age difference. 

I did not read through the entire list but while it may be statutory rape for an 18 year old to have sex with someone 15, not so with a 17 year old.

I just realized that since there are junior/senior proms there could be a larger age difference in the kids.  But if a parent allows their 15 year old to attend a prom and after prom sleepover with an 18 year old then they would not have a leg to stand on in civil or criminal charges against the parents in that household.  Again the only one legally responsible would be the 18 year old.

http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-r-0376.htm

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Mon, 08-19-2013 - 8:18am

emptynester2009 wrote:
<p>p&gt;No, of course a parent knowing about and providing clean sheets for the commisson of statutory rape (i.e., of a minor) in his own house necessarily opens himself up to civil and possibly criminal liability.  Anything else is absurd.   &lt;/p&gt;
</p><p><span style="font-family:comic sans ms,sans-serif; font-size:medium">Since the discussion was about an after prom party the kids should pretty much all be in the 17-18 year old range so statutory rape should not  be an issue.  All sex between an adult and a minor does not constitute statutory rape,  there usually has to be an age difference.  </span></p><p><span style="font-family:comic sans ms,sans-serif; font-size:medium"></span><span style="font-family:comic sans ms,sans-serif; font-size:medium">I did not read through the entire list but while it may be statutory rape for an 18 year old to have sex with someone 15, not so with a 17 year old.  </span></p><p><span style="font-family:comic sans ms,sans-serif; font-size:medium"></span>http://www.cga.ct.gov/2003/olrdata/jud/rpt/2003-r-0376.htm</p>[/quote]

In the case of a prom, it's very possible no one's a minor.  I responded to your question not mentioning the prom, but mentioning a minor ~  In what way could a parent be held liable for a minor having sex in thier house?

Sorry for the misunderstanding.  I was surprised if you didn't know the law there!  You're a smart girl and don't argue for argument's sake like others here.

A parent opens himself up to liability whenever statutory rape is committed in his own home.  It's very possible there will be no action taken for obvious reasons.

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Mon, 08-19-2013 - 7:44am

emptynester2009 wrote:
<p> feel that way too ~ by all means, let them all crash at our house so I know my child is safe.  But with these after-prom sleepovers comes the risk that some stupid teenager &lt;em&gt;does&lt;/em&gt; have sex in your own home.  In the US, that opens up the parents to lawsuit and even criminal responsibility.  It's great that they're so progressive in the Netherlands and share sex tips with their own teens.  But I prefer to act like a parent and at the same time, not be sued, thankyouverymuch.  What is the world coming to, Jamblessed? &lt;/p&gt;
</p><p><span style="font-family:comic sans ms,sans-serif; font-size:medium">In what way could a parent be held liable for a minor having sex in thier house?  As far a I know there is nothhing criminal about a minor having sex unless rape is involved and then the only one criminally responsible is the person doing the rape.  </span></p>[/quote]

No, of course a parent knowing about and providing clean sheets for the commisson of statutory rape (i.e., of a minor) in his own house necessarily opens himself up to civil and possibly criminal liability.  Anything else is absurd.  

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Sun, 08-18-2013 - 7:18pm

<<In what way could a parent be held liable for a minor having sex in thier house?  As far a I know there is nothhing criminal about a minor having sex unless rape is involved and then the only one criminally responsible is the person doing the rape. >>

Unless the parent was dirctly involved, I can't see how there would be anything criminal about two teens having sex in their home.  I think a bigger issue in todays world is adults giving minors alcohol, that is actually a criminal issue...

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Sun, 08-18-2013 - 1:57pm
"In what way could a parent be held liable for a minor having sex in their house?" -------- I think it comes out of the same law book that says a town car can't cross state lines.

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