What do you think of your Mother-in-Law?

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What do you think of your Mother-in-Law?
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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 1:46pm

Did you know October 24th is Mother In-Law Day?

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 10:00am

I am mad that she couldn't even have called him for this birthday. Her happy birthday was a message on my facebook account.

I am upset that she didn't send a gift or explained if she was going to or if she could not afford to as she is always late for my children's birthdays but her grandchildren that live close to her always get their gifts on the day of their birthday or on christmas day.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 11:49am

My mil wouldn't be too fond of me, if I expected her to either get my kids gifts, or give me an explaination as to why she didn't.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 11:55am

To each his own. This is her grandchildren and I don't believe in treating children differently just because you see some on a regular basis. Out of sight...out of mind. Very sad thing to do to your grandchildren, IMO.

I have never gotten a gift from her for my bday which I could care less but my dh called HER this year for his bday as she texted him Happy Birthday. He doesn't care about getting a gift but at least pick up the phone and call your child for their bday. Texting happy birthday to your child is quite cold, in our opinions.

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Registered: 10-22-2009
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 12:01pm
My MIl is like this...she never calls the kids she never visits the kids and her gifts are speratic...mine our her only grandchildren. When my children were born she never came to see them.

It use to upset me...i have learned thru time to let it go...it is her loss...my youngest will say "who is gran" gran is what we call her... My daughter said have we ever seen "gran" my two older boys could care less about "gran"
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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 12:13pm

You'd hate my family then.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 1:12pm

Yeah, my kids really don't know that grandmother either. My son has only met her once.

Even though you live faraway, you can still have a close relationship with your grandchildren IF you want it.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 1:20pm

I think it's nice when someone acknowledges your birthday, with a nice greeting of some sort, whether it's text, an email, a card or a phone call...at least they thought of you, and isn't it the thought that counts?

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Registered: 01-08-2009
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 1:24pm

I don't care about birthdays and I don't care whether someone else acknowledges my kids' birthdays or not, but I do think that my kids and I would both notice if a grandparent favored one family of grandchildren over another, and I think it would be hurtful. It would not be not getting a gift that would be hurtful, but the other family favored over my kids (who are pretty special, imo!).

As for my mother-in-law, our relationship was cordial but not close.

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 1:26pm

When the grandchild is a child, yes, I think you should make it a point to take a few minutes out of your day to call them.

When it is your own child, no matter the age, yes, I think yoiu should also make it a point to take a few minutes out of your day to call them.

I was not speaking about distant relatives or even friends. I am speaking of a child and grandchild.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 1:29pm

My mil is wonderful.

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