What do you think of your Mother-in-Law?

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What do you think of your Mother-in-Law?
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Wed, 10-13-2010 - 1:46pm

Did you know October 24th is Mother In-Law Day?

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 9:02pm

I agree and I think children need other people in their lives, not just their own parents and they need more than their parents giving them a good, clean home.

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 9:43pm

My family just does it differently.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 10-01-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 9:49pm

Well we don't usually see any of the grandparents for these holidays either.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 9:52pm

People who think that they and their children are entitled to things, typically walk around with a chip on their shoulders, and are easily offended b/c they often don't get what they think they deserve.

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 9:55pm
mycherubs wrote:

To each his own.

We are out of sight out of mind. If the other grandchildren got nothing (even just a phone call), I would understand more. My children deserve just as much from her (again, not just material things but having a relationship with their grandmother, just a call on their bdays) as she gives her other grandchildren.

The part of your statement that I put in bold - this is the part that I am having a hard time understanding.

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 9:59pm

Really? Why would you want you children to have a relationship with someone who treated you badly as you say you MIL did?

Family and extended family is very important to our family (we have 50ish relatives that we see each and every year), but my MIL and SIL were toxic as they didn't accept my adoptive sons as family. It was their right, but they lost all but minimal contact with my daughter (much loved by them) because of their behavior.

In my family, love and support is much more important than biology and it's never judged by birthday wishes or Christmas presents.

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 10:01pm

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 10:01pm

I admit that my viewpoint is colored by the fact that my family lives in the same town as we do.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Wed, 10-27-2010 - 10:02pm

you know, i think those most cold, black and white about relationships are those who either, take their own relationship with parent/grandparent for granted - or - two, have a cold, rotten relationship with them themselves.

i have a friend whose parents are both alive, she says the most gawd awful things about her mom, about her husband's mother all.

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Wed, 10-27-2010 - 10:07pm

Wow is all I can really say. Sounds like you don't have a very good relationship with your own family and find it ok for your children not to know them and that other older people are just as good a substitute for real, blood, family. Sorry about that.

No one is walking around with a chip on their shoulders but my children should be treated just like their cousins are and just because we are thousands of miles away does not mean you can't pick up the phone and call and say happy birthday. My children have always been slighted. My sil sat on the phone with me over an hour when I was pregnant with my 1st child asking me what I needed and told me she already started a huge box of things for the baby for my shower. The box would be coming soon. 12 years later.......I am not upset that I did not get anything but that I was lied to and not just a quick, I will be sending you some things but a full explanation of what she would be sending over an hour long conversation.

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