What a HEEL I am!!!

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Registered: 12-12-2002
What a HEEL I am!!!
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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 12:37pm

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 1:44pm
Last Christmas, my stepkids were here for holiday break. My dsd8, had quite a nasty cold when we picked her up, and the day after we arrived home, she came down with a rash that looked like the chicken pox. I called our doc and they asked NOT to bring her in as long as she was faring without complications at home. She was doing fine, but covered in bumps and of course, itching horribly. Her mom did not have a phone - so I could not even call and ask if she had ever had the vaccine or the pox before. I assumed it just was the pox - in fact, an internet pal I have who lives in the area had recently complained that her kids came home from school with the chicken pox. So, I called all my relatives and basically cancelled all the Christmas gatherings - too many newborns, pregnant women and elderly people in the mix I thought to pass something like that around knowingly. So, we spent Christmas holed up in the house, with one brave grandmother who got stuck with gift delivery service, brought a truckload of gifts, left them on the deck, rang the bell and left quickly. (This same grandmother told me she had the chicken pox a dozen times in her lifetime and was scared to be exposed.)

To my surprise, when we dropped the kids off at home, her mother was not surprised to hear about her dds rash - seems she has had rashes like this even with mild viral colds - and the doc explained that any virus could cause a rash like the chicken pox, it just was not that common. So, maybe some strange genetic flaw? Seems paternal grandma probably in fact has NOT had the actual chicken pox so many times, just different viral rashes. Lo and Behold, my dd came down with the same rash a week after. Ds had a cold, but no rash.

So, basically, I cancelled all of our Christmas plans for a darn "common" cold.

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 3:24pm
Cut yourself a break. She's only 6! How were you supposed to know? Just be glad that the problem has been discovered and can now be corrected.

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Tue, 04-15-2003 - 11:24pm
dont be so darned hard on yourself. this is all about being a mom, and learning. especially with the first, its tough. you never raised kids before, have you? you're doing your best.

with regards to illness, the only times i feel like a heel is when my ds2(who seems to get viruses more than the others) tells me he doesnt feel good before school, and i cant decide if hes really sick, or just "punky", so i send him and he promptly calls me that morning to come get him because he has a fever. i really feel like a dog. its hard to tell sometimes.

one time he had a rash all over his face, and i couldnt figure out what it was, but thought maybe he was allergic to the red dye in something he ate. it did not look at all like poison ivy to me. my dh took him to the doctor, and when dr. walked in, he said, thats poison ivey. dh said, beth was sure it wasnt, and dr said, tell beth, thats why i get paid the big bucks. he is so funny. great doctor, and when the kids are sick gets them better, but will joke when its not a serious issue. i love my pediatrician.

go easy on yourself sweetie!! you're doing great!

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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 9:56am
Well, it does make me feel better that NO ONE else picked up on it either. We all know she has allergies (so does EVERYONE in my family), so when she complains of her eyes hurting or her eyes watering or headaches, the answer is "allergies". Even from my dr who has been practicing long enough to have been a veteran when he started seeing me when I was 8 years old!

Her teacher didn't catch it, her piano teacher didn't catch it, her Brownie leader didn't catch it, her art teacher didn't even catch it, and these people are all (excluding the Brownie leader) people who have worked with kids FOREVER, and work with them every day.

To be honest, her teacher and principal were shocked b/c she IS reading at such a high level at such a young age. In the words of her principal, "that is one focused little girl."....lol. I can't imagine how hard she was having to try to read before. poor baby!

On the other hand...she looks AWESOME in glasses! She picked out these lilac colored ones in the Barbie collection. They are kind of a rectangular shape, but angled at the edges. I'll have to take some pictures and share them! :)

So...how is your trip anyway? Aren't you still gone? When are ya coming back? :( I miss my chat buddy!

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Wed, 04-16-2003 - 10:01am
Don't be so hard on yourself. Nobody knows everything and if this wasn't something you were looking for, how could you have known? I was severely farsighted as a child, to the point where my mother took me to the eye doctor at age 3 because I looked like I was going cross-eyed. I wore glasses from age 3 to 16. Yes, you do grow out of it, to the point that I now wear glasses for nearsightedness (life truly isn't fair!).

DS was born cross-eyed and had eye surgery at 8 months, which completely corrected his farsightedness. Of course, people seemed surprised that I took an infant to an eye doctor, and if I hadn't experienced it myself, I probably wouldn't have known what was wrong.

I would guess that your DD's headaches have to do with forcing her eyes to focus up close, and she must have been able to do that, since she didn't have problems reading, so now you've solved the problem. Why continue to worry about it?