What is the Real Issue Here?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2003
What is the Real Issue Here?
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Sun, 06-01-2003 - 8:56pm
What is the real issue about women working outside the home?? I have a sneaking suspicion that a lot of people in society are angry and upset that women are working at jobs and "competing with men". And that is the REAL source of the anger. It actually has nothing at all to do with people worried about children not having a mom at home, or being in daycare. I feel the real issue is people are upset (especially in these hard economic times) that there are some women out there getting the jobs "that men are supposed to get". But who really wants to admit it? I mean, no one wants to admit to having such bigoted attitudes. So, they claim their concern is really for "the children".

By the way, lots of women HAVE to work and its not a choice. Anyways, not all jobs are that great. Do you really think that a woman working the night shift as a security guard, or working at Wal-Mart checking groceries is just doing so to fulfill her ego or something? come on! Its called SURVIVAL.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 06-09-2003 - 12:56pm
If you're lucky, even if you make way less than your husband, your standard of living is likely to slip.

If you have the ideal situation, and your husband is one of the really good Dads, you also have to consider the fact that you might have to deal with joint custody. Which would mean, the children's accomodation requirements and associated lifestyle issues are split accross two equal domestic properties. And that being the case, it can very quickly end up that, post divorce, noone can afford to live where they did before, and with the lifestyle they had, before divorce. Regardless of wife:husband income ratio.

Of course, if you are unlucky enough to have a husband who would not want or be able to get if he did want, joint custody (or is that shared custody - the one where both parents share equal time and responsiblity) that may not be an issue.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2003
Thu, 06-12-2003 - 2:31pm
Absolutely. If I were to divorce, I know that I would not remain in our house, I wouldn't even want to, too big, but even a house half the value of this one would be plenty nice and plenty big enough.

In most cases the standard of living for both partners will go down.

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