Which birthday "hit you"?

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Which birthday "hit you"?
Wed, 09-03-2003 - 12:50pm
I'm wondering if I'm totally weird here in how hard my birthday hit me this year. (I never expected it, that's for sure!) I turned 25 yesterday, and it's like all of a sudden, I'm feeling old! Not really that I'm old, but that I'm not young either. I always thought 30 would hit me.. but 25?

So which birthday hit you like a ton of bricks?


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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 12:56pm
Happy belated birthday!

I felt old when I hit 30. 25 is still young
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 1:16pm
Happy Birthday! I turned 29 on the 17th. I thought to myself, "I wonder if everyone will forget and I can be 29 again next year." I know 30 will be worse. I am kind of feeling like I am hitting my midlife crisis early. By no means do I think 30 is old, BUT it's still NOT twenty something!!!!



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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 1:25pm
I know it is odd but 22 hit me really hard. I think I was mourning what I had given up. I had friends going into medical school and friends that were abroad. I had been married for a year and had a two year old. I had a husband with cancer and we were working so hard and getting nowhere. We drove old cars and lived in an apartment. I just felt so disconnected from other 22 year olds.

Then, I sat down and realized I would not trade my life. I had a beatiful 2 year old son and I had a great marriage. My friends in medical school did not have that. They had made different decisions than I had. They took the other fork in the road. Not to start the whole maternal age debate again but I am glad we had our children young. DH has gotten to enjoy them and I have energy (somewhat) for them.

Life is just a series of decisions that lead you to...today. Today I would not change a thing in my life except to my DH healthy. And even that is hard because we have learned so much from his cancer-it has made us the adults we are today.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)


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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 1:43pm
I'm 37 now and the birthday that has hit me the hardest so far was 25. I really wasn't bothered at all by 30, but for some reason at 25 it hit me that I wasn't a kid anymore.

My mother told me that her worst birthday wasn't actually one of her own, but MY 30th. She just couldn't believe she was old enough to have a 30 year old child!

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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 2:00pm
I dont look at age as a number, so none of them *hit me like a ton of bricks*. I will say that 36 kind of took me aback for a second though-I realized I was officially in my *mid to late 30's*.

You know what though? At 38 I am in better physical condition, look better, feel better and am happier than I was at 25. I cherish every year and appreciate every wrinkle and grey hair (okay so I cover the grey, lol).



"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 2:10pm
None "hit me." Hey, I still feel really young! But I guess for my 30th birthday, i wanted to do something "milestone"-like because I felt that it was a "big" birthday-- so decided to train for the marathon and ran it.

What made me think that I was a "grown up" was when I had my baby last year, though.
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 5:29pm
No birthdays ever made me feel old but this post sure does! I never was bothered by any birthday, not the 30th, not the 40th, maybe because I always did and still do look and feel years younger than the calendar says (Well, I think so anyway). I still can outdance just about anyone, any age. What is rather depressing is the realization I had at 42 that I'm on the downward end of the Bell curve of looks. The secret is to avoid mirrors.

Edited 9/3/2003 5:30:25 PM ET by islimshady
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 6:03pm
Haha... I don't think I will ever appreciate my gray hair. The curse of my family... I've had salt and pepper gradually since I was 15 years old. Thank goodness for dye.
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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 6:26pm
*******HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!**********

see you're getting old like me!! LOL. actually thirty really hurt my feelings. i was pregnant and felt like an old mommy. forty was awesome! i have had more fun in my forties than ever before. it took me a little longer in life to figure out what makes me happy, and really have come into my own over the past six years.

and 25???? PPPFFFFTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT......you're kidding right??? im married almost as long as you've been in the world. twenty five is such a baby, but also its probably the first big milestone on this side of adulthood. chill out, relax and RIDE. it only gets better!!

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Wed, 09-03-2003 - 8:38pm

30 was tough for me, but I think it was less about actually turning 30 than it was about turning 30 and being 7 months pregnant, unhappily married, and miserable, all at the same time. And it didn't help that my ex threw me an "over the hill" party, complete with black balloons and gravestones. Grrrr....

We'll see, though. Next month I turn 40. And this time it may be less about actually being 40 and more about being 40 and in the throes of hot flashes and facial hair.LOL And my SO knows that any such over-the-hill themed parties will bring him some pretty horrific consequences.

Really makes you wonder what 50 is going to bring, huh? ;-)