Why housework and sex are connected ..

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Why housework and sex are connected ..
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 11:22am

A popular topic under many different headings... I personally agree but after a lot of years have not been successful (or at least consistent) at persuading my husband that man + housework is a good thing for both of us.


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From the article 'Why housework and sex are connected'


Joseph Fields* knows that if he wants to increase the odds for sex with his wife, he brings her roses, sends her a love note or suggests dinner at their favorite restaurant. But if he wants to be certain of a romantic evening, he goes for the vacuum cleaner.

"My wife has told me that she's never more turned on to me than when I'm doing housework," says Fields, a 39-year-old guidance counselor from Lexington, KY. "And she's proven it again and again."

American women have long hinted that seeing their husbands doing housework—or at least seeing the results—is an aphrodisiac. Now, for the first time, men confirm that the housework-sex link is real. ... complete article

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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 12:08pm
I have read these studies before. Fortunately (for my husband) he does not need to do housework to make me want to have sex. I might be in the minority of women though as I am willing 99% of the time and often the initiator.
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 12:23pm
Thanks for your reply...
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 12:25pm

Easy


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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 1:05pm
lol!! Ok...
It did not happen overnight but something my husband decided to do on his own. I have also learned to delegate things to him and deal with them not done the way I would.
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 1:11pm
I think as long as women, particularly women who work outside the home, think in terms of "getting him to help" or "delegating chores to my husband," the problem will continue. If the attitude is, it's really the woman's job to run the household, and anything the partner or the children do is "helping," then it's no wonder that women end up doing the majority of the housework.
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 1:57pm

Good point. I remember not calling

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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 2:00pm
Thanks for your reply :)
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 2:02pm

I saw a greeting card on this topic that was kind of funny: a guy was holding up a sign that said "will trade housework for sex."




Edited 10/16/2009 2:03 pm ET by mom34101
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 2:06pm
WTG on having a guy that's taken it upon himself :) In reading so many discussions on the topic of getting stuff done around the house, I feel sad for households where one partner does not take any responsibility at all; and I tend to put some blame on their mothers for not expecting the same from their sons as from their daughters. I was fair to both my son and daughter about their pitching in around the house and they both keep a pretty neat environment in their homes now.

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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 2:08pm
Nice, I love it :)

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