WOHMS!

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WOHMS!
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Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:21pm
Today is day four of my new job.

Today, I've brought home work, and am attempting to put all the pieces back of my house. I attempted to do this yesterday, before it got Really really behind, but a storm passed through and knocked out the power for the entire afternoon.

How long, when you went to WOH, whether after maternity leave or SAH period did it take you to adjust? To get into a routine? My dh is helping out, but as I've got a thousand questions for him entailing my job, I'm taking up both our time. I'm getting scatterbrained, losing my train of thought. I need bananas and milk and the library books are due back.... What was I saying again?

The stress has been unreal, but I am superoptimistic that it will fade somewhat as time goes on and I have a handle on what I am doing. My job objectives have changed from just a few to about half a dozen. I'm learning everything as I go along.

Tell me it gets easier please, and tell me about clean fluffy bath towels and fingerprint free storm doors, and maybe, tell me about walking across the kitchen floor without a stray piece of puppy kibble sticking to your socks!

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In reply to: jennamumm
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:24pm

It take awhile to adjust and you have to learn to let some things go. One stray puppy hair isn't going to

"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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In reply to: jennamumm
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:44pm
I am almost certain that once I get over this early phase, I will love the job.

I was planning on letting some standards go... but it was last night, when I had no choice but to use the same bath towel that dh did, moments afterward, that I'd already gone too far!

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In reply to: jennamumm
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 1:53pm

Oh, I know that feeling. I was looking at my laundry room today and it is a fire trap. Clothes everywhere and the washing machine overflowed Saturday so I have to wash all the moldy clothes. It smells awful too!


I throw laundry in when I get home. Put it in the dryer at dinner and start a new load. Then, when you go to bed, put the second load in. Of course, I never fold my clothes which is what creates my problems.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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In reply to: jennamumm
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 2:30pm

I keep a master, color-coded (one color for each person) in the kitchen and have the same information and more in my Franklin Covey that I carry EVERYWHERE.


I eased back into the work part time so it was a bit easier for me I think.

PumpkinAngel

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In reply to: jennamumm
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 3:34pm
As a single WOHM, I never adjusted I just did.
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In reply to: jennamumm
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 4:35pm
For me, WOH and keeping up with the household graduated from "nearly impossible" to just "extremely difficult" over the years. Hey, it's an improvement, isn't it?

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In reply to: jennamumm
Thu, 06-10-2004 - 8:52pm
Two things I do:

I make lists, then I make lists of my lists, and lists of my lists of lists. I've got a night kids checklist (check other list and pack backpack; lay out clothes for tomorrow, etc.) and a morning kid checklist (teeth, nails, check calendar for day's events...). I've got a backpack packing list for each day of the week. I've got a weekly calendar posted on the kitchen cabinet. I've got a community "we're out of...." list.

I put everything in my calendar, including dh's things (other than his work things). I'm the family memory. I remember that dd1 has to wear sneakers to gym on Monday, that dh has a dentist's appointment on Tuesday and that I have a meeting on Thursday. If my Palm Pilot and computer backup ever both are lost I'm dead. Each week it all goes on the calendar.

The other thing I do is cook ahead on weekends. I never make stew or soup for one day, I make a double pot and freeze half. I make at least one two meal dinner on the weekend (bbq chicken, big meatloaf, stew, whatever).

I'm exceptionally lucky that I have a nanny who cleans and does laundry, so I have about 1/2 the load you do, but if I had to do those things too, I'd probably schedule them: Monday linens and towel laundry and dust bedrooms; Tuesday: clean bathroom, one load of clothes, that sort of thing.

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In reply to: jennamumm
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 8:02am
Thanks for all the suggestions.

Yesterday, I did do some bulk cooking. I hope that helps out next week.

I'm really hoping once I get over this stage of having to have dh's attention to answer questions, that he will be able to help more with the house, and we can fall into a routine. I think the biggest mistake I've made in the past week was not making my workout a priority. It always relieves stress for me. It's a mind-over-matter thing for me, I've got to push myself into it, no matter what else needs to be done.

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In reply to: jennamumm
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 9:54am
How much are you working? It may be time for your husband to come to terms with bananas and library books.

The doors on the main floor don't have fingerprints right now cause I asked the cleaning lady to wipe them on Tues. The marks on the walls from ministicks I am stuck with. The towels are clean but they're 5 years old and never fluffy. The kitchen floor usually has something on it, courtesy of either 2 kids, 3 cats or 1 dog. The dog is currently into slopping his water and all 4 furry entities share that water bowl, so if there aren't muddy dog prints and cat prints on the kitchen floor at some point during the day, the animals are probably dead of dehydration. Even my neat as pins white female cat has dirt on her paws that comes off when wet. I tend to it before bed...takes 30 seconds. I'm ok with all of it because even when I am around the house all day...I don't spend the time chasing fingerprints and paw prints and towels. If you aren't, and you would, you might need a regular cleaning service.

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In reply to: jennamumm
Fri, 06-11-2004 - 9:58am

Totally a side note:


My new puppy sticks her whole head and her front two paws in the water bowl. She makes a huge mess and just grins when she is done. The other dogs look at her like she is crazy.


I have never seen a dog love water with such abandon.


"I do not want to be a princess! I want to be myself"

Mallory (age 3)

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