would you do this to your wedding dress... really?

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would you do this to your wedding dress... really?
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Sun, 08-28-2011 - 12:45pm

so you got divorced and to celebrate the event you have a trash the dress party, that includes spilling wine, dirt, whatever it takes to trash the wedding gown.

 

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Registered: 11-22-2000

It's a lot of things.


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Registered: 06-18-2011

Ok. I get very embarassed too with people staring at me-lol!! And I am a Leo, figure that-lol. So I can see where you are coming from.

I think a lot of people like to celebrate their marriage with family and friends though as I think they were there before the marriage and will be there after.

Did you always feel this way or more after you got divorced?

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Registered: 10-06-2010
My own personal theory is that weddings are about celebration and fun. So an expense that adds to the bride/groom and/or guests' enjoyment of the evening is okay, as long as those paying can afford it.

To that extent, an open bar, good food, a good band/dj, are all very worthy expenses. A dress the bride LOVES and that makes her feel special and sexy and romantic is worth it ... but I don't think one really needs to spend $15,000 to feel special, sexy and romantic. I think most women could get that feeling for 500 to a couple thousand dollars.

The Girl and I watch a lot of SYttD. I've already told her that our contribution to the dress will be *reasonable* - which means it won't be $5000 or $10,000 or $20,000. But that I don't expect her to make do with a $50 dress either - if she doesn't want to.

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Registered: 11-22-2000

I've always felt that way.


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Registered: 06-18-2011

I am right there with you and I think by SYTTD being on TV, it shows very unrealistic views of how much a wedding dress is. This is Kleinfelds in NYC, not the local bridal salon where you can get dresses for much cheaper that look just as nice.

Yeah, the VERY expensive dresses are gorgeous but unless you have a HUGE budget and really want to spend that much for one day, they are not worth it and I hate when they go and try on dresses they can't afford as you know you will love it and want it.

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Registered: 01-08-2009

I just spent about as much on my son's going-away party as we did on our wedding, except for the housing of the guests (we got married at a "destination" location, so we paid everyone's transportation and lodging).

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Registered: 02-24-2009

I agree.

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Registered: 06-18-2011

Yeah, then something big is just not for you. I can see him thinking you might regret it but if it is not you, you would have never regreted it.

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Registered: 10-06-2010
I think I'd turn that around -- if the $$ you're spending won't affect the marriage afterwards, why spend it?

"I don’t mind a banshee, that’s fine. 2 banshees? I HATE you. I actually wish bad things upon you." -- Day[9] Daily #459 P1

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Registered: 06-18-2011

To have a party for your friends and family to celebrate your wedding and new marriage.

Again, this was my preference and we love to have parties-lol!! I got used to the attention after awhile-lol!! and just had fun. My kids still to this day, over 18 years later, love to watch our wedding video. I find it sadder and sadder as time goes by though as the people we have lost, the people who are divorced and the ones we have lost touch with.

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