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Fri, 04-04-2014 - 8:05pm

Compassion again:  http://truestoriesofamidwestyankee.wordpress.com/2014/03/19/to-the-woman-behind-me-in-line-at-the-grocery-store/

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 7:08am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;blackandwhitemolly&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;We are speaking of a 13/14/15 yr old, correct, PKA? &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;.  You realize that when someone asks you not to use a nickname when addressing her, and you continue to do so, that it's rude, right?&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>No, she didn't, That request was to me and I don't even debate the woman.  Besides, the pka continues to use an abbreviation to address her so if there's some new standard you'd like changed perhaps you'd like to pass it on to those you know so well first, While you're at it ask that they refrain from using real life names on the board too, I believe molly has kindly asked that a couple of times, It's rude to not comply with a really kind request bordwithyou. </p>
.  I agree, it's rude not to comply with a request, even if it's a general request and you didn't get an engraved, personalized copy.  Nicknames and abbreviations are not inherently wrong, but when someone says she dislikes being addressed by one, it's rude to continue to do so.  I'm surprised that I have to spell this out for anyone.

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 7:42am

bordwithyou wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">jamblessedthree</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;bordwithyou&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;blackandwhitemolly&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;We are speaking of a 13/14/15 yr old, correct, PKA? &amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;.  You realize that when someone asks you not to use a nickname when addressing her, and you continue to do so, that it's rude, right?&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;/p&gt;&lt;p&gt;No, she didn't, That request was to me and I don't even debate the woman.  Besides, the pka continues to use an abbreviation to address her so if there's some new standard you'd like changed perhaps you'd like to pass it on to those you know so well first, While you're at it ask that they refrain from using real life names on the board too, I believe molly has kindly asked that a couple of times, It's rude to not comply with a really kind request bordwithyou. &lt;/p&gt;</blockquote>.  I agree, it's rude not to comply with a request, even if it's a general request and you didn't get an engraved, personalized copy.  Nicknames and shortened versions are not inherently wrong, but if the person has said that she doesn't care to be addressed by one, then it's rude to continue to do so.  I'm surprised I have to spell this out.</p>

Right, So please pass that on.  It would also be rude to call you by your first name after you kindly told me not to and I don't know what is so difficult about that to grasp either. 

 

 

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 7:46am
I agree, role models are subjective. My kids have learned a lot by my SAH actually, I am grateful they can be trusted and bestow kindness and good manners to others. About language, I hand it to my kiddo that has mastered French much better than I, I ask her for translations a lot, Lol. Her next feat is fluent Italian.

 

 

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 8:16am

jamblessedthree wrote:
<p><blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"><div class="quote-author"><em class="placeholder">bordwithyou</em> wrote:</div>&lt;p&gt;&lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&gt;&lt;div class="quote-author"&gt;&lt;em class="placeholder"&gt;jamblessedthree&lt;/em&gt; wrote:&lt;/div&gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;gt;&amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;gt;bordwithyou&amp;lt;/em&amp;gt; wrote:&amp;lt;/div&amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;blockquote class="quote-msg quote-nest-1 odd"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;div class="quote-author"&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;em class="placeholder"&amp;amp;gt;blackandwhitemolly&amp;amp;lt;/em&amp;amp;gt; wrote:&amp;amp;lt;/div&amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;amp;lt;p&amp;amp;amp;gt;We are speaking of a 13/14/15 yr old, correct, PKA? &amp;amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;amp;gt;&amp;amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;amp;gt;.  You realize that when someone asks you not to use a nickname when addressing her, and you continue to do so, that it's rude, right?&amp;amp;lt;/p&amp;amp;gt;&amp;lt;/blockquote&amp;gt;&amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&amp;lt;p&amp;gt;No, she didn't, That request was to me and I don't even debate the woman.  Besides, the pka continues to use an abbreviation to address her so if there's some new standard you'd like changed perhaps you'd like to pass it on to those you know so well first, While you're at it ask that they refrain from using real life names on the board too, I believe molly has kindly asked that a couple of times, It's rude to not comply with a really kind request bordwithyou. &amp;lt;/p&amp;gt;&lt;/blockquote&gt;.  I agree, it's rude not to comply with a request, even if it's a general request and you didn't get an engraved, personalized copy.  Nicknames and shortened versions are not inherently wrong, but if the person has said that she doesn't care to be addressed by one, then it's rude to continue to do so.  I'm surprised I have to spell this out.&lt;/p&gt;</blockquote></p><p>Right, So please pass that on.  It would also be rude to call you by your first name after you kindly told me not to and I don't know what is so difficult about that to grasp either.  </p>
.  I'm only responsible for my own behavior.  

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 9:58am

Well, if superior parenting means trying to be a good role model, responsibility and accountability then I'm all in. I cringe every time I see a post with a signature line as ugly as one of the posters here, Maybe the teenager created it b/c she doesn't know any better.

Yep and a good role model doesn't find vile things perfectly ok. If the child is REALLY a child, then she is still under her parents responsibility and still learning what is right and wrong. If the parent thinks it is right, then it is definately the parents fault for teaching these things. 

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 9:59am

There are situations to which "bad" language is entirely fitting.

And I never said otherwise. 

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 10:29am

jamblessedthree wrote:
I agree, role models are subjective. My kids have learned a lot by my SAH actually, I am grateful they can be trusted and bestow kindness and good manners to others. About language, I hand it to my kiddo that has mastered French much better than I, I ask her for translations a lot, Lol. Her next feat is fluent Italian.
. I guess if you need to stay home to teach your kids to be kind and to have good manners, that is a good reason to stay home.  My children are still behind us in foreign languages, but both of them understand both French and Italian well enough that my husband and I can't speak it to each other when we don't want them to understand what we are saying.  We have to resort toGerman  for that now, which is kind of a problem because neither of us speak German very well so half the time we don't even understand each other.

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 10:54am

I am quite satisfied with my childrens' literacy and command of language, both foreign and domestic.

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 11:01am

I am quite satisfied with my childrens' literacy and command of language, both foreign and domestic.

I know, you have said this before. That is why it is even scarier to know this. 

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Mon, 04-07-2014 - 11:08am
"My kids have learned a lot by my SAH actually," -------- What do you feel your kids have learned from your SAH?

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