Would you hire a hot nanny?

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Registered: 07-21-2003
Would you hire a hot nanny?
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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 4:45pm
The other thread about being jealous of the nanny reminded me of this. Everyday when I come home from school I pass by the most gorgeous nanny (she looks all of 18), waiting with one of her charges for another one to get off the bus. She's been dressed in shorts up to there and low cut belly shirts. I can't imagine why anyone in their right mind would hire her. I mean, you can trust your husband but still, who needs it? Even if your husband didn't have a wandering eye, I'd hate to have to compare myself to some PYT all the time.

I had a friend who was rather average looking and she hired an absolute knockout of a nanny from Romania. This girl looked like a model, and she also used to run around in a t-shirt and panties.

Is it me, or would this bug anyone else?

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Registered: 03-29-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 6:22pm
Absolutely. In fact, I'd rather hire an energetic, fit, attractive nanny than one who didn't take care of herself at all. I'd try not to discriminate when hiring someone, really, but I think if I did have a tendency to discriminate, it would be for, rather than against, attractive people.

Maybe I'm kidding myself here, but I also don't think I would feel threatened. I know that DH looks at other women, but I honestly don't mind. It's not like he leers at teenage girls walking down the street, but he does appreciate physical beauty in a woman.

Finally, what's with equating physical beauty with moral laxness? If a nanny hit on DH, she'd be gone in a second. But I don't think I should assume that a "hot" nanny is by nature a home wrecker.

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Registered: 10-01-2003
Wed, 10-01-2003 - 8:49pm
Did you really just say "gag?"
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 10-05-2003 - 2:14pm
I wouldn't exclude hiring a nanny just because she was attractive. I am not intimidated by attractive people, nor do I worry about my dh cheating. However, I would not hire a nanny that dressed sleezy or sluty because that is not the influence I would want on my children.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 10:44am
Hiring a nanny shouldn't be about what she looks like. It should be about her credentials and/or experience. Now running around in panties and not properly dressed when poeple are home or even with my kids at home is unacceptable, regardless of what teh person looked like.

But to put it plain, I'm a knockout myself and work hard to keep myself that way to keep my husband's eyes on me. That's what ALL wives should do. If they don't thenthey shouldn'tget upset when their husband's look the other way at other PYTs. Having children is no reason for letting their bodies go. Yes, you may get stretch marks (I didn't) and some may gain some weight during the pregnancy (I gained 70lbs.), but that doesn't mean you shoudl stay that way. If a child is 3 and up, hell, if the child is a year and up, there's no reason for that pregnancy fat to still be there. It really is just fat minus the pregnancy statement.

So to state my answer, no I would not be intimidated by another knockout at my home. Because I would be one of them.....:-)

Tonya
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Tue, 10-07-2003 - 10:47am
Why is it so icky? Because she looks good. If your daughter was gorgeous and wore jeans and a a t-shirt woudl you call her icky? I don't think so. Sound slike you may be insecure about your body. Can you say Bally's Fitness?
Tonya
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Tue, 10-07-2003 - 10:49am
Hallejuah!!! Someone who thinks like me. I can't stand insecure spouses who let themselves go and then look at the other PYT like she's a disease.
Tonya
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Tue, 10-07-2003 - 1:31pm
I can't find my post that you're responding to, but if I recall correctly, I think I said that it was "icky" for the sitter to be dressed in her undies-- not in jeans and t-shirt.

And I'm smiling as I read your post because I was back to my pre-pg weight 2 mo post partum.

I do have to get back to doing my pilates, though, to tone up my tummy!
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Tue, 10-07-2003 - 1:36pm
I thought it was just me. That wa sthe only area it took the longest to tighten back up. It flattened but it took at least 6 months for me to tighten my tummy again, and another 6 months to get rid of that little pocket bulge in the bladder area. I guess you can't ahve it all, unless you have surgery....LOL.
Tonya
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Tue, 10-07-2003 - 2:12pm
wow. My dd is almost 15 mo old and the bulge is still there. I know it, but I refuse to believe that you can't "spot reduce." Yes, liposuction is always an option, but I've been blessed with excessive scar formation so... so much for that option. lol!
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Tue, 10-07-2003 - 6:13pm
"Finally, what's with equating physical beauty with moral laxness? If a nanny hit on DH, she'd be gone in a second. But I don't think I should assume that a "hot" nanny is by nature a home wrecker."

I would never equate beauty with moral laxness. I would equate beauty with my husband's likelyhood of looking at the nanny rather than me, however. Let's put it this way, if my dh (love him though I do) and the hunk from Sex and the City are sitting on the couch, who do you think I might be paying more attention to?

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