Would you hire a hot nanny?

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Would you hire a hot nanny?
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Mon, 09-29-2003 - 4:45pm
The other thread about being jealous of the nanny reminded me of this. Everyday when I come home from school I pass by the most gorgeous nanny (she looks all of 18), waiting with one of her charges for another one to get off the bus. She's been dressed in shorts up to there and low cut belly shirts. I can't imagine why anyone in their right mind would hire her. I mean, you can trust your husband but still, who needs it? Even if your husband didn't have a wandering eye, I'd hate to have to compare myself to some PYT all the time.

I had a friend who was rather average looking and she hired an absolute knockout of a nanny from Romania. This girl looked like a model, and she also used to run around in a t-shirt and panties.

Is it me, or would this bug anyone else?

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Wed, 10-08-2003 - 6:13pm
Apparently, you can't fit yourself appropriately in a bra if you think cup size is NOT determined by the comparison of breast size to overall body size. it always amuses me to hear folks talk about the sizes of their breasts when they don't really know what they're talking about, as you've just done.

A B cup is ANY breast which measures 2 inches greater than the chest measurement directly above the breast. A 32 B is a woman whose above breast chest measurement is 32 and breast measurement is 34. therefore, those size 0 supermodels who measure 32 or 30 inches above the breast, could very easily be a D cup or larger, simply by measuring out 4 inches larger around the breast than above it.

A 32 D may only be 36 inches around the breast, unlike the 42D, who is 46 inches, but they are BOTH legitimately D cups.

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Wed, 10-08-2003 - 7:09pm
I didn't state it to say it in a technical way. It was just a visual example. Just like if you are a size D cup, and you have a big gut, your boobs may "appear" to look smaller than someone who has a flat stomach and is smaller in frame.

Do you understand the example I was trying to set as a visualization.

I understand perfectly how to measure ones correct bra size. But it wasn't needed in this case- Mrs. Playtex....LOL

Tonya
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Wed, 10-08-2003 - 9:25pm
I'm talking Jimmy Carter "lust in my heart."

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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 12:04am
Yes, I understand what you mean, but if a fleeting flash of "oh, that looks good" is the extent of what one's DH feels over the nanny (or the secretary, or the housekeeper, etc.) what is the grounds for discriminating? We all do that, regardless of gender, so where is the threat? A person would have to be terribly insecure to actually deny someone employment over fear of a lustful glance going in that person's direction.

Once, in a relationship a long time ago, I was introduced to a friend of my then-boyfriend. This friend had a rather colourful life, and my boyfriend had told me a great deal about him before I met him, but the one thing he didn't tell me was that he was EXTRAORDINARILY handsome, in an absolutely mythic sort of way. He was something of a human work of art, and for a moment, I reacted visibly to the sight of him; just couldn't help looking at something so beautiful. Sex honestly never entered my mind at the time. Later, on the way home, boyfriend expressed irritation that I had been visibly struck upon meeting the friend, and implied that I lusted after the friend. My answer was, "I appreciate the beauty of Michelangelo's David, too, but I don't have any desire to sleep with it. The only person I lust after at present is you." It happened to be the truth. DH & I have discussed this issue many times, and he has the same opinion, and after 14 years, I believe that he is telling me the truth about it. Like me, he can appreciate beauty for what it is, without necessarily coveting it. Like me, he needs more than just beauty to work up a good lusty fixation on someone.

I don't kid myself; I know that there is a possibility he could be tempted to cheat on me. However, I know very well that he wouldn't be tempted to a serious degree by looks alone; there would have to be much more to it than that. I also know that it is completely possible that if the person were captivating enough, lack of looks wouldn't be an effective deterrent, either.

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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 9:12am
You said it better than I ever could. "Petey" just couldn't grip that for some reason. I hope she does with your well explained post.

You get a thumbs up from me.

Tonya
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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 9:27am
I dunno. Matthew Broderick is a perfectly nice little man, but I seriously doubt that anybody here would have accepted his invite for a date in HS.

I love SATC, but I also have a hard time understanding the sex symbol part. Maybe they are sex symbols simply because they HAVE sex (apart from Charlotte who is waaaay too prim to be a sex anything). More than SJP, I find the one with the short red hair beyond just plain. I always assumed she was meant to be the plain jane of the show. The tall, slutty one does have a great body, but that's it for the assembled cast members.

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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 10:57am
Ok Ladies, here is another side of the story....

I am good looking nanny. And I would like to tell everyone a few things about being a nanny.

First of all, its hard enough trying to find a good job because there are inexperienced teenagers/illegal aliens working for $3.00 an hour. Then once you find a family that looks sane and is offering a good salary on the books, it turns out all they really want is a full time housekeeper that occasionally looks after the kids.

Nannies are not there to steal your husbands. Trust me, we have enough relationship issues of our own without interfering in yours. This is not to say that it hasn't happened before but I'm sure that you can find thousands of people, men and women, in every profession in the world that are after someone else's spouse.

For the record, we don't want your kids either. We love the kids we work with, but we are more than happy to give them back at the end of the day.

We also don't want to make you feel guilty about working. If you didn't work, we wouldn't have jobs.

You say you wouldn't hire a hot nanny, why? Do looks really play that important of a role in your life? If someone said they wouldn't hire you because you were fat/ugly/old and you were the best candidate for the job, you would all have that company in court so fast their heads would spin.

Do you really think that your husbands never see any other good looking women on a daily basis? Because I'm sure they do and I'm sure they notice, but men aren't animals. They can control themselves if they want to. If your husband cheats on you, it's anyone else's fault except his own, not even yours.

And did any of you ever think that if you had a nanny and she owre clothes you didn't think were appropriate, you could just tell her? Instead of talking about the clothes to other people, why not sit her down, tell her why you feel the clothes are innappropriate and what guidelines you could agree to for her work clothing.

Please ladies, they is enogh problems with men taking us seriously in the workplace, we don't need pettiness from other women on top of that.




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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 11:38am
Hallelujah. Someone here to defend themselves. Tell it like it is Jenny!

Thumbs up from me!

Tonya
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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 11:50am
Uhmmm, I was on to SATC, but never mind. I happen to have a delightful dh, who hasn't diddled the help since he was 9. He has always strictly avoided carrying on with any of his employees, whether he himself was married at the time or not (their sisters, girlfriends and cousins make for another story, LOL).

However, I hang with the boys and they are quite frank around me. Believe me, my poor dh would find it very distracting to have a nubile, young woman living with us in the house. It wouldn't necessarily mean that an attractive girl might not be hired anyway, because I know his taste. There are plenty of women, who would be considered attractive by most people that dh wouldn't touch with a ten-foot or any other pole. But, just as I wouldn't want a hardbody poolboy around all the time, I wouldn't require dh to pretend he wasn't a man in his own home. It is not a question of adultery, I trust him not to be that disrespectful of me. It is a question of having to put a lid on your perfectly natural reactions on an ongoing basis. It gets to be tiring. So, if you are his type, no, I won't hire you. If you are attractive but dye your hair and paint your nails, send over a resume anytime.

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Thu, 10-09-2003 - 12:43pm
ITA. I've stayed out of this discussion so far, but I agree with everything you said. I'm not denying that my DH will find other women attractive. But I'm also not kidding myself into thinking that if I don't hire an attractive woman to work in my home, he'll never see one. He works outside the home, he has hobbies, he travels, we have a social life. It's pretty much a sure thing that in any given day, he'll see a lot of women more attractive than me. I assume he looks at them and fantasizes about some of them, but I trust him not to act.

Besides, as you say, physical attraction is only one part of a bigger picture. I don't believe for a second that men only cheat with women who are more attractive than their wives.

And furthermore...I'm glad *my* employer didn't deny me a job just because I'm a babe! ;)

Dana

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