Your Kids: College

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Your Kids: College
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Fri, 06-21-2013 - 10:32am

Would you like your children to go to college? Why or why not?

Do you plan to encourage your kids into a certain path in college? E.g. liberal arts, STEM, vocational? Or will your children be free to choose whichever path they would like?

What is the purpose of college, IYO? 

I belong to another discussion board where someone brings up a "degrees that don't pay off" article every few months to help fuel their perception that most college is worthless. I am curious if this opinion is specific to that group or if it is common in a general sense.

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Registered: 05-13-2009
Fri, 06-21-2013 - 2:12pm

Would you like your children to go to college? Why or why not?

Yes, we expect them to go to college. We have saved for them to get an undergrad degree without loans on their part. If they choose not to go directly out of hs, they will be expected to get a job and contribute to expenses if they live here. If they decide to go to school after a year or two off, we will still pay for their BA/BS as long as they are students in good standing.

Do you plan to encourage your kids into a certain path in college? E.g. liberal arts, STEM, vocational? Or will your children be free to choose whichever path they would like?

If asked, we will offer advice. My daughter is in a STEM program, but she also has interests in the liberal arts. My oldest son jus completed his sophmore yr hs has expressed interest in film school, and the local public uni has a good (not great) program so he will be encouraged to apply there. My youngest is a musician, so all bets are off on that one.

What is the purpose of college, IYO? 

I belong to another discussion board where someone brings up a "degrees that don't pay off" article every few months to help fuel their perception that most college is worthless. I am curious if this opinion is specific to that group or if it is common in a general sense.

I have a BA in English, and a Masters in English and LibSci, and CompSci. All my degrees got me where I am today making a good living at something I love. The secret to my personal success was that I had few loans to repay, so I was able to keep alive with low paying jobs until I found what I wanted to do.

I think the undergraduate experience is a time to experiment with interests and learn and apply critical thinking skills, grad school is about working towars your life's vocation.

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Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 06-21-2013 - 11:31am
Well written arryl.

 


 


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Registered: 10-23-2001
Fri, 06-21-2013 - 11:16am

I agree bea.   The purpose of college is unique to every individual but something that one of my professor's said was pretty accurate when I heard it, He was answering the question of why gen ed courses are required when they are not related to a core program and he said if all college was about were core classes then it wouldn't leave room for personal growth, that makes a lot of sense.  And history and art enrichment classes at a college level is very different than at high school too, Lol. 

Both DH and I are college graduates and i believe in life long education so college is certainly encouraged, But that final call is not mine to make.  I want my kids to follow their own directions and paths towards happiness and personal fullfillment after high school. 

 

 


 


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Registered: 02-24-2009
Fri, 06-21-2013 - 11:15am

Kiddo is currently in college, majoring in philosophy, minor in history. I assumed my kid would do some sort of post-secondary education. Had she chosen a non-academic field, like carpentry or brick-laying, I would still have encouraged her to take a college degree in either humanities, math or a hard science before starting vocational training.

It was up to her to choose her college major, but we did counsel her, when she asked, as to the pros and cons, in terms of academic bang for the buck, of various fields.

The purpose of college, from my POV, is to give you a solid intellectual foundation that will allow you  to lead a more fulfilling and useful life. This also means that I am very pleased with my kid's course of study. In a practical sense, you go to college so you can be admitted to grad school, where you may get a degree that will actually give you a job of some kind.

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Fri, 06-21-2013 - 11:13am
Yes, I would like my children to go to college. I don't care what they major in, as long as they have a general plan and don't acquire massive amounts of debt to obtain the degree. I think the purpose of college is to acquire critical thinking skills and to learn how to learn on a deeper level than most people learn in high school. I think humanities, social sciences, and pure sciences classes are valuable. If my kids don't have aptitude or interest in college, I would prefer they go to a vocational/technical school or find another path to a career they enjoy. I've seen a lot of these kinds of articles as well. I think the problem isn't so much people getting degrees that "don't pay off" as much as people who aren't motivated to go to college going anyway. Goofing off for 5-6 years, acquiring $100,000 in debt, and majoring in English is a bad idea. A person who is committed and has a solid plan for a career in technical writing who graduates in 4 years with no debt with a BA in English is going to have a much brighter future.
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Fri, 06-21-2013 - 11:05am

Would you like your children to go to college? Why or why not? -- Yes.  Aside from the education aspect (which is huge), I also think that the college experience is important.  While getting the degree and increasing job prospects, salary potential, etc is good, being an educated, experienced person is even more important.

Do you plan to encourage your kids into a certain path in college? E.g. liberal arts, STEM, vocational? Or will your children be free to choose whichever path they would like? -- My children will be free to choose whatever they want, within reason.  I won't endorse (or pay for) my kids to go to pole-dancing school or underwater basket weaving, lol.   But as long as the path they choose is reasonable and legal, they'll have our support (financially and otherwise).   I hope to influence their decision and guide them into paths that are in line with their personalities, intelligence and abilities, but it will ultimately be their decision.

What is the purpose of college, IYO? -- See #1.

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Fri, 06-21-2013 - 10:57am



Would you like your children to go to college? Why or why not?  Yes absolutely, I think it's essential for growth as a person and to really get anywhere today you need a degree of some sort, whether its an associates, a bachelors or what have you.

Do you plan to encourage your kids into a certain path in college? E.g. liberal arts, STEM, vocational? Or will your children be free to choose whichever path they would like? She can choose whatever path she wants but I'm a big believer in the value of a liberal arts education... learning for the sake of wider learning, knowledge of things that don't necessarily lead to jobs but lead to a more rounded fuller sense of the world, our history, our language, our place in it etc.. that to me is priceless

What is the purpose of college, IYO?  I think I kind of answered that above--it's different for everyone though- for some it's to get ahead career wise for others its to grow personally, for many its a little of both.

I belong to another discussion board where someone brings up a "degrees that don't pay off" article every few months to help fuel their perception that most college is worthless. I am curious if this opinion is specific to that group or if it is common in a general sense.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Fri, 06-21-2013 - 10:38am

My ODD plans on getting a degree "that doesn't pay off", art history, possibly with a teaching certificate along with a graduate certificate in museum administration.  I think just about everyone one is good at something, not every kid is going to be a scientist, an engineer, a lawyer or a doctor.  As long as she can make a living for herself and is happy with it, then I am happy.  Do I believe all kids need to go to college, or are cut out for college, no, there are all different paths in life.  I also think our society has gotten out of hand when a secretarial position now requires a college degree and college costs are through the roof and student loans, while not a necessity for everyone, are also out of hand.

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