am I wrong?

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Registered: 03-19-2010
am I wrong?
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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:02pm
my son had a medical emergency and instead of my ex/my son's Dad coming with me to see the doctor the SM did. wth? then when we transferred from urgent care to a major hosp. via the ambulance Dad drove their kids to her sister's house instead of riding in the ambo with our son. I was not able to ride with our son unfortunately so SM did-odd to me again. Then at the ER of the major children's hosp. SM, Dad and I are all talking to the surgeons, but I felt since SM does not make medical decisions or have legal guardianship why is she again back talking to docs again and not in the waiting room.
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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: spamom715
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:11pm
Yes. BD/SM sux.






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In reply to: spamom715
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:15pm

I hope your son recovers and everything is ok.



With regards to your post...



Was your DS really, really hurt (sick)? Like was everyone scared as apposed to broken bones and just needed to get him care?



Was your DS really scared?



I'd think in our situation if for whatever reason BD AND BM couldn't ride in the ambulance I may go with DSS, simply because he wouldn't want to be scared.



If SM can drive then why didn't she take the kids where they needed to go?



Not saying anything bad, but why couldn't you ride in the ambulance?



I, for one if BM was there would not go back when medical things were being explained or decesions being made. At some point I'd assume my DH would tell me what's going on, but ME getting info is NOT the first priority at that time. If BM wasn't there and DH needed emotional support I'd go back but keep my opinions to myself.



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Registered: 06-16-2008
In reply to: spamom715
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:16pm

Would you mind passing me one of those martinis, please?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: spamom715
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:18pm
Two olives, dirty for me.
















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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: spamom715
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:25pm
Take your pick.





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Registered: 06-16-2008
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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:26pm
Thank you. I'll take one of each.
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Registered: 03-19-2010
In reply to: spamom715
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:44pm

docs thought my son had a poss. torn spleen from a nasty football tackle...but it all turned out ok.



I was not able to ride in the ambo because I had

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Registered: 08-11-2004
In reply to: spamom715
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 10:46pm

It does sound like it sucked. I have the same question as another poster though, why couldn't SM drive the other children and BD ride with your son? I was totally serious when I said BD sux. He sux for not being there for his kid, and he sux for letting his wife handle what should have been his business.

Is your son ok now?







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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: spamom715
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 11:12pm

I read that as the 3 y/o was her kid with SF. IF that's accurate then BD didn't have to do a thing for that kid.

Why SM couldn't take the other kids while BD rode in the ambulance is another question. Why SM had to participate in the medical interview/treatment planning is another valid question. I can think of a few reasons why that might have been a good thing but if one of the BPs is uncomfortable with it then it probably shouldn't happen without some compelling reason.

To the OP: SM sux, this isn't a debate and really, (seriously) you'd get better advice/sympathy from the support board. All that said this is a brutally honest group of ladies some of which are at least as involved as your SM. So you can learn a lot.

What struck me most about your post was your tone. You sound timid and not too sure of yourself and your observations. You're asking a random group of strangers for validation. (None of this is meant to be bad, BTW) This makes me wonder how assertive you've been able to be with SM. She doesn't sound like the kind who waits for an invitation and you don't sound like the kind to tell someone when they are unwelcome. That's a bad combination.

Anyway, they're closing up the joint so I'll either see you on FB this weekend or on the boards when they return from the dead.