Badmouthing the Ex
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|Thu, 01-31-2013 - 2:21pm|
Here is an article from Huffington Post about how detrimental it can be to your children if you bad mouth your ex in front of them, and I would assume that the same goes for bad mouthing the stepmom. Here is one of the examples the author gives:
Mike, a 43-year-old man, still remembers his mother referring to his father as a loser after the divorce. Mike still can't shake the word "loser" from his head. Anytime he hears someone called a loser, he cringes. It has taken him to years to view his dad differently than the story told to him by his mother.
To date, Mike finds himself constantly trying to achieve so that his mother won't think he's a loser. I bet she never expected that by calling her ex-husband a loser, it would have such a lasting impact on her son.
You can read more examples of the affects of bad mouthing your ex at this link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/marina-sbrochi/the-lasting-effects-of-ta_b_2538091.html
Do you think it's ever appropriate to make a negative remark about your ex or their SO? How do you handle it if they are late with child support, there is a disagreement about parenting or the other parent is slacking when it comes to their custodial times?