Cancelling visitation

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Cancelling visitation
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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 4:34pm

What message do you think it sends when an NCP frequently cancels visits?



I ask because ODD's BF has gotten into the habit of cancelling about 50% of the time.

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Registered: 04-27-2010
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 4:37pm

I think it says, "I don't value you enough."

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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 4:38pm

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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 4:39pm

I believe she feels that if he can cancel because he has other plans, she should have the same luxury. >>>

I agree. I don't think that kids should be forced to put a higher priority on their relationship with their parent than the actual parent does.

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 4:40pm

It's a chitty thing to do.

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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 4:46pm

>>>I think it says, "I don't value you enough." "You are second best to XYZ." "I'm feeling like a POS today."

I don't blame your daughter for choosing to better things than hang out with Dad when they come up.<<<

This.

SO's daughter is going to be with us this weekend, as is my daughter. For my daughter, it's because her dad chose to move 2 hours away and she has a tournament this weekend in my town. Three guaranteed games, one Friday night, one Saturday night and one at the crack of dawn Sunday.

SO’s daughter is playing in the same tournament. She has two games Saturday and one at the crack of dawn Sunday (yeah, she’s playing my daughter’s team…FUN). Her mom “decided to go out of town” instead of taking her visitation.

I think that for both my daughter’s dad and SO’s daughter’s mom, not taking visitation this weekend says EXACTLY what you typed.

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Registered: 09-04-2006
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 4:48pm
>I believe she feels that if he can cancel because he has other plans, she should have the same luxury.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 5:09pm

I think it says, "I don't value you enough."

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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 5:10pm
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Wed, 09-22-2010 - 5:55pm

<I believe she feels that if he can cancel because he has other plans, she should have the same luxury.

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Registered: 08-16-2010
Wed, 09-22-2010 - 5:56pm

Oh, here's the thing...it's MY luxury *grimace*, as a NCP, to cancel "visitation" but if I want to spend time with my daughter, and the court order allows it, as a minor she has no choice but to be available for my time with her.

She doesn't get a say in it. It doesn't matter if I'm responsible or a flake. Male or female. She's a teen or a five year old. She's a minor. Police will be escorting her to me if she thinks she can tell me, "nope, Mom, not coming because X is more important."

Not that I'd ever get that from her...but, I reserve the right to let her know exactly what legally enforceable rights she has in the matter: none. And the other parent...dare you to try and play the "she doesn't want to come" game. Dare you.

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