Categories?

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Categories?
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 5:46pm
Whenever we get a new CL for the board which categories do you think would be helpful? I was thinking of an "Ask the BM's" section and an "Ask the Steps" section just because when you go to the step or bm board looking for answers to questions some on those boards find it inappropriate for the "other side" to bring questions to a support board. Anyone else have some good ideas for sections?
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In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 5:52pm

Those are good suggestions.

I would like to see a section (similar to the one on the Parenting Styles Debate board) where we can post "non-debatable" chatter.


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In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 5:54pm

I think that might be more appropriate on a support board, but this is a debate board. The intent is very different and it would be sad indeed if someone came here thinking they could get advice/support by "asking a BM/SM" and then got, well, debated with.

Also, there are numerous people who are both SM and BM. Where would they fit in?

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Registered: 01-21-2004
In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 5:59pm

Hapa,

Couldn't people who fall under both categories post under both categories?

I see your point though, about this being a debate board, hence my suggestion of a non-debatable section. Why not?


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In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 5:59pm
I am not sure hapa how it should be worded. I do know that some people go to the support boards seeking advice on a situation and when things start getting debate-like the person is told it's not appropriate or people stop answering the thread in attempt to ignore the poster away. But maybe you are right, it should just be posted in the debate section as a question. I think if someone is both they just answer with whatever hat they feel like. In fact many times if you ask for a BM or Step opinion the non bm's and non-steps answer anyway. Just trying to think of a way to cover the things that are hard to cover on the support boards.
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In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 6:03pm
It could be distinguished as a non-debate but answer seeking section in which very delicate issues are answered for which would not be welcomed on the support boards. I have to think about that one, but it seems there ought to be a way to fit it in somewhere. I have noticed many stepmoms going to the bm board wanted to get questions answered and it is a toss up whether it's appropriate to ask there or not or how the members feel about having their support board crashed with questions from "the other side".
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In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 6:28pm

I agree with Hapa.

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In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 10:46pm

I think we have to wait a few weeks and see ... once we get all the pent up debates out of our systems we'll see if there is a natural fit for folders in the discussions.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: tea_time
Thu, 12-07-2006 - 10:40am
I don't have a suggestion for catagories, I think yours are good so far, but sometimes when reading posts, I have to re-read to determine if someone is a NCP or CP or the spouse of the NCP or CP. Since I am a CP "birthmom", and on the road to remarriage and will be SM, I know that some of us sit in two pairs of shoes. I wish there was a way to determine WHICH shoes we might be wearing in each topic.