Deployment and skid(s)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Deployment and skid(s)
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Fri, 08-20-2010 - 5:35pm
If college age skid(s) didn't communicate with you while your spouse was deployed, would you stop financial assistance? Went to this deployment mtg. today and heard some of the craziest stories. I'll tell you the one in mind after I get some answers.


Edited 8/20/2010 5:36 pm ET by ty1981

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-19-2009
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 5:41pm

Is communication with SP a prearranged condition of college assistance?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 5:46pm
Is the stepparent the one funding their education or the deployed legal parent?
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 5:52pm

Is college CO'd? Is SP paying for it?

Honestly, if SP is paying for it just coz, I think it stinks of the kid to cut off all contact. If that's not the case? I don't see Skid having any obligation to SM during BD's absence.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 5:56pm
No. Child in question is 19 off CS. Gets financial aid, but Dad and SM pay her a monthly allowance. They also pay her insurance, cell phone, and SM pays for her girly things ex: highlights, haircuts, etc. SM also sent the traditional Christmas and Birthday gifts while her DH was gone. SD didn't call her the entire year BD was gone or send thank you cards for the gifts. SD also didn't reply when SM emailed her about the care packages she was sending to BD( SM did a collage for her DH, etc.). SM and SD had a really good relationship before BD deployed.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 6:00pm

Shouldn't the deployed bio-parent have already made provisions for support payments?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 6:05pm
The SD sounds awfully rude and ungrateful. Why accept anything from SM if you are going to ignore her for a year? That doesn't make sense.
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-13-2008
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 6:06pm
The child is off of support.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-13-2009
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 6:06pm

Shouldn't the deployed bio-parent have already made provisions for support payments?

A Stepparent is as much a parent as an ex-wife is a wife.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 6:08pm
What Dad wants to do is up to him. As SM, I'd stop paying for her girly things. Nor would I send bday or Xmas gifts anymore.
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-16-2010
Fri, 08-20-2010 - 6:08pm

Um...no. SM is actually being a sweetie and her stepchild rude and ungrateful.

How did you arrive at SM being evil here?

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