Discipline across homes

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Discipline across homes
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Wed, 03-21-2012 - 9:01pm

Does either parent have the "right" to create a consequence for a child when the Child is not in their home?

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Wed, 03-21-2012 - 11:35pm
Legally? No. In my situation, however, we do.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 9:15am

you should create consequences in your own home... end of story, it is not fair if one parent says, when she doesn't do the dishes, she goes to her room, and expect the other parent to do that. The other parent gets to decide the consequences inside their own home...

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:11am
I think it is usually bigger punishments that parents expect to be carried out in the others home...like, "you have a D in chemistry, no, you will not go to that party, and since its during your other parents weekend, they will back me up on that".

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:23am

i am not saying that you are wrong, but perhaps you should take away something at your house, and not at dad's house, like remove the cord to the XBOX/WII or TV in general... or take away thier phone at your house... something that you actually do have authority over.

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:24am
I have authority over my children everywhere...as does their father.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:40am

Whatever, I just meant that it might be more effective that way... Because right now, you seem to be a bit of an overbearing BM... One that hurts when I am sitting on the toilet TRYING to squeeze it out, when I realize that perhaps I shouldn't have eaten that much cheese earlier...

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:50am
Lmao...you really have no idea what you're talking about. Your failed attempt to offend me simply makes you look more like an idiot. Carry on.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:53am
Now, if you're wanting to actually debate the issue, we can do so.

I have no concern with how a stepparent would feel regarding my parenting. My ex and I parent our children together...as we should. We support each others decisions...as we should. If someone has a problem with that, they really shouldn't marry into our family.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 10:55am

i was not trying to offend you, i was merely trying to explain how you are coming across... and this right here, your statement just supports it. and it is doubtful that anyone will marry into your family with the way things are run, and if you are happy about this, then so be it, more power to you.

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Thu, 03-22-2012 - 11:11am
Why, because we support the other parent in discipline decisions and respect the other parent enough to include them? Uhhh...okay. I'm perfectly happy not having someone like that as a part of my life, or the lives of my children.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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