Does child have the right?

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Does child have the right?
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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 2:33pm


Age: 13
Schedule: EOW

Teen goes to Dad's house on Friday night.

Next morning teen wakes up and Dad is gone. SM says "Dad forgot to tell you that he had something to do today (let's say work) and he didn't want to wake you in order to let you know. He'll be gone for most of the day. He'll see you at dinner. So I guess it's just you and me today."

Kid says "Gee, but no thanks. If Dad is not going to be around, then I've got things to do in my part of town. I'm going to ask Mom to pick me up and drop me back here at dinner time."

Does the kid have the right to do this? If he calls Mom, does she have the right to pick him up? SNs, would that ok with you? BMs, would you tell kid that he must follow the CO?

Assume Dad can not be reached. He works for a top-secret govt. agency and is out doing his "24" (the show) type stuff.

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 2:45pm
If the child doesn't want to stay and the BD is gone, I don't see why they can't go home for a bit until BD comes back. He's not losing any time with the child, IMO, since he's not there anyway.




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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 3:07pm

***Kid says "Gee, but no thanks. If Dad is not going to be around, then I've got things to do in my part of town. I'm going to ask Mom to pick me up and drop me back here at dinner time."


Does the kid have the right to do this? ***


I should think so.


***If he calls Mom, does she have the right to pick him up?***


Yup, kid is with a sitter at this point and not

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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 3:21pm

Kid says "Gee, but no thanks. If Dad is not going to be around, then I've got things to do in my part of town. I'm going to ask Mom to pick me up and drop me back here at dinner time."


Does the kid have the right to do this?


Not in a snotty - I'm the boss way, no.


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Registered: 09-23-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 4:14pm
This sounds like the grocery store scenario all over again.

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Registered: 04-27-2007
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 4:40pm

I felt that the child's perspective was underplayed in the grocery store scenario. So the POV that was often presented was BM "dragging" the child off. It became a battle between SM and BM.

I wanted to look into "it's the OP's time" from the child's perspective, when the OP wasn't physically present during that time.

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Registered: 09-23-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 4:48pm

I see.


Frankly, if my child called me any time from anywhere asking me to pick her up--I am going to pick her up.

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Registered: 08-16-2010
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 5:04pm

If ex tried to come pick up our teenage daughter because she demanded to be picked up...he had best understand I won't tolerate it without a fight. It will cost him to undermine me and my custodial time. I would expect the same from him if roles were reversed.

No. My teenage daughter does NOT have the right to do as she pleases without my consent on my watch.

For whatever reason, I'm not home. It's more than likely for a da*ned good reason and there are other members in the home she's being given an opportunity to spend time with...primarily, her half-siblings. And since she has developed a loving relationship with her SF...him as well.

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Registered: 09-12-2009
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 7:23pm
Age: 13
Schedule: EOW

Teen goes to Dad's house on Friday night.


Next morning teen wakes up and Dad is gone. SM says "Dad forgot to tell you that he had something to do today (let's say work) and he didn't want to wake you in order to let you know. He'll be gone for most of the day. He'll see you at dinner. So I guess it's just you and me today."


Kid says "Gee, but no thanks. If Dad is not going to be around, then I've got things to do in my part of town. I'm going to ask Mom to pick me up and drop me back here at dinner time."


Does the kid have the right to do this? If he calls Mom, does she have the right to pick him up? SNs, would that ok with you? BMs, would you tell kid that he must follow the CO?


Yes, child has right to call his/her parent to pick him/her up.


As a SM, I would be hesitant about it but, its the kid's mom, you know. Not much that I can do as I have no parental power. I would call dad & let him handle it. I would stay out of it.


Assume Dad can not be reached. He works for a top-secret govt. agency and is out doing his "24" (the show) type stuff.


If dad can't be reached, he would find out after he got home that his child is with the BM. This is a sitch where SM should tread lightly.

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Registered: 01-01-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 9:04pm

>>This sounds like the grocery store scenario all over again.<<


Ummmm, yeah... I was thinking the same thing! :)


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Registered: 01-01-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 9:12pm

>>Kid says "Gee, but no thanks. If Dad is not going to be around, then I've got things to do in my part of town. I'm going to ask Mom to pick me up and drop me back here at dinner time."


Does the kid have the right to do this? If he calls Mom, does she have the right to pick him up? SNs, would that ok with you?<<


Yep, I'd be very okay with it. As a matter of fact, if BM wasn't able (or willing) to come pick up skid, I'd be more than happy to drop him off! :)


>>Assume Dad can not be reached. He works for a top-secret govt. agency and is out doing his "24" (the show) type stuff. <<


I would never try to bother DH while he was doing his top secret spy stuff -- he'd be okay with it, too, I'm sure. :)


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