Dreaded Lice...

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Registered: 07-22-2009
Dreaded Lice...
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Mon, 08-30-2010 - 2:06am
BM calls BD to inform him that there's a nasty outbreak of lice at daycare. She has treated the kids twice, but daycare has been unable to contain it. On dad's next visitation, he and SM stand in the driveway with combs and look for lice and eggs. They find an egg and refuse to take visitation. BM is upset because she feels that dad should deal with it just like she has to and that it was unnecessarily embarrasing for the kids. SM feels that the kids' home has already been contaminated and there's no sense in infecting another home and it's occupants. Who is right?

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Registered: 02-08-2010
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 6:59am

I think it's a bit extreme not to let the kid visit because of -one- egg.

DSD keeps getting lice as to the children around her. It can't be helped. It happens. They keep rubbing heads together it's so easy.

PLUS! Even if you think you've done the job, if you miss just -one- egg or just -one- louse, they will still come back. This is why I'm under the impression that those oil based products just suck. They should bring back the chemical ones because at least then I KNEW the lice and eggs had been gassed out.

Tie her hair up. I do think BD should be doing his share in helping out with the problem. I don't think it's worth refusing visitation over. It's not going to kill them. It's just one of those things that all families deal with at one point or another.

And I agree. Having lice is embarrassing enough (depending on your age), but your father refusing visitation over it must be a real kick in the self esteem :(

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Registered: 06-28-2008
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 7:10am

I agree that it's probably the worst way BD and SM could have dealt with it . . . alienating in the extreme.

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Registered: 07-04-2010
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 7:11am

Dad and SM were awful to do that to the kids.


However, I would be happy to have my kidz fulltime if Daddy can't be bothered to take care of his kids.


I'd be looking for a new daycare too.

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Registered: 02-08-2010
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 7:17am

In our sitch, BM and SO both do DSD's hair (and mine and BM's).

We already have that agreement. Lice come and go during childhood, already accepted that fact so time to just deal with it. Comb it every once in a while, treat our hair when we find one.. Especially at school age. It doesn't take long for lice to make a home on your head. All it takes is one louse, be it one you missed, or the one the other child's parent missed. And there we have it. We have another epidemic.

Most you can do to prevent it is just tie the girl's hair up, and bic the boy's.

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Registered: 06-18-2008
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 8:38am

Shame on dad and SM.

Its only dickies after all, we've all had them. Put chemical on their hair and voila.

Kids should have still gone to dad's and been treated there.

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Registered: 03-09-2009
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 9:01am
IMO, BM is right. They over-reacted (by requiring the checking be done outdoors and in full view of the neighbours), and dad could step up and pick nits over the weekend. Is he a parent or not?
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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 9:17am
I'd take the kids home. Deal with it as best I can and keep as many lice in a jar as I could find. Then, every time it's the BD/SM's visitation, right before we got to their house, I'd toss one louse into one of the kid's hair. And make sure they found it.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 9:22am

How about kid and dad sit in the driveway while SM runs to the store for lice treatment, and the child is cleaned up and clothes are changed before coming into dad's home.

I agree the child probably felt rejected by dad, and that was totally avoidable. Plus dad's home might have been infected before the outbreak was discovered, so dad/SM might want to consider checking for that and cleaning everything anyway.

But beyond that, I really just came into this thread to make a selfish request. Can we not put the "L" word in thread titles? Whenever I see the "L" word my head itches for weeks. If it's in the thread title I'm going to have this problem until a while after it drops to the second page. It's already started, ugh..... Obviously I'm highly suggestible, I'm sure even a hypnotist wannabe could make me act like a chicken on stage.

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Registered: 06-24-2008
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 9:26am
Bwahahaha. Rather than mom being guilty of parental alienation, it'd be mom using dad's natural self alienation from lice.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 08-30-2010 - 9:31am
Before resorting to tossing a louse, tho, I'd just call them on, say Thursday, and tell them I just found another couple eggs (see if that doesn't do the trick first) :D

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