How do you keep an even keel with Christmas presents?

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Registered: 10-06-2011
How do you keep an even keel with Christmas presents?
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Thu, 12-13-2012 - 4:03pm

The SM of my kids is intent on showing me up when it comes to presents it seems.  I've tried to work it all out with my ex in the past so that we don't duplicate and that it stays pretty even, but now that she's in the picture she's trying to get in the middle of it.   I try to keep some sanity in the gift buying so that the kids aren't expecting a ton of expensive toys and gifts, but she is making it very hard.  My daughter has no problem asking for a new iPhone or a pair of Uggs now because she tells them that it's totally okay to put that on the list, that she can always get it for them.  My daughter is way too young for both of these items, it's so frustrating!!! 

I'm trying to not take it personally, but it does grate.  I know that she's trying to be the fun parent, but it's not in the best interest of my kids.  How would you handle this? 

 

 

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Registered: 05-14-2009

i know that this bothers you, as it makes you look like the "bad" guy, but she is probably not trying to "upstage you" and just feels like she wants to do what she wants. you need to talk to your ex, because honestly this is not your place to tell this woman what to do. It would be like me telling my mother what she can and can't do for my kids. I can request what i want, but in the end it is her decision. I can require it to stay are HER house, but that is about it.

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Registered: 09-30-2011

I think you need to have a serious talk with your ex and tell him that you need them to both to work with you. I understand that she's just trying to be all friendly with your kids, but she's also an authority figure now and needs to show it. Parenting isn't about making friends, it's being the adult!

Chelsea

"Minds are like parachutes. They only function when they are open."