Is it BD's right to be at the birth?
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|Sat, 08-28-2010 - 10:10pm|
I was just wondering what your ladies opinion would be on this.
SO's sister is due in a week or so. Concieving the baby was a result of a one night stand with a man she has some history with but they are not together and they never will be as far as she's concerned, at least.
She doesn't want BD at the birth of the baby.
By that I mean in the room. Nothing against him being outside the room and in the hospital. He can come in the moment the baby is born, but not during the birth itself.
Debate: If a mother is giving birth, do you think is's a father's right to be in the room? Or is it the mother's choice? (Taking laws out of the equation)
Do you think father SHOULD be there regardless of what mother decides? Why or why not?
My answer? My own sister and I were arguing SO about this. He belives it's a father right to be in the room during birth, wheras my sister and I believe it's the mother's choice.
If the mother and father are not a couple, why would she want someone in there whom she feels uncomfortable around while in excrutiating pain? Even if he can't see her lower region, why would you want them to see you that way?
I suppose he might be reliving his own experiences. He was with BM during all that and sure it would have been a special thing for him. But the difference is, he and BM were a couple at the time. It's a different situation.
ETA: BD of this baby isn't pressuring to be in the room. I think he's just going with the flow. I'm not sure he and BM have even had that discussion. Just thought I'd throw that out there. Thought it was an interesting topic seeing as SO felt so strongly about it for some reason..
Edited 8/29/2010 1:28 pm ET by ladylike_nima