Kate Winslet Targeted By Father's Rights Groups

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Kate Winslet Targeted By Father's Rights Groups
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Fri, 12-20-2013 - 9:40am

Kate Winslet became the target after an article she did with Vogue and comments she made regarding co-parenting: 

"People go, 'Oh, my God! Those poor children! They must have gone through so much.' Says who?" Winslet told Vogue. "They've always been with me. They don't go from pillar to post; they're not flown here and there with nannies. That's never happened. My kids don't go back and forth; none of this 50/50 time with the mums and dads – my children live with me; that is it. That is it!"

Fast forward to the holiday season, and Fathers4Justice (F4J), a U.K.-based campaign group for equal parenting rights, used Winslet in a Christmas advertisement.

“We are running this advert as part of a campaign to highlight the sensitive issue of four million children waking up on Christmas Day without their father," F4J told the U.K.'s Mirror. "It is clear from what Kate says that she does not support ‘shared parenting.’”

You can see the ad at: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/12/19/kate-winslet-fathers4justice_n_4474334.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

Her ex-husband even came to her defense saying that the groups have no knowledge of their parenting circumstances.  What do you think of her views?  If she was the main parent during the marriage, is it wrong of her to have these same views after it's over?

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Well we don't really know what's going on with her & the kids.  I think it must be kind of difficult to have 3 kids with 3 different fathers so maybe it is more stable for them to be together most of the time with the parent they have in common.  But I read this article and was kind of shocked by her statements.  I do think that in most circumstances it's much better for kids to spend time with both parents.  Now maybe she is saying more that the kids live with her but spend time with their dads, not that she is keeping the kids from their fathers.  I think it could also be very difficult for kids to have to do 50-50 custody between 2 homes.  I think sometimes the parents look at kids like possessions and they want half each.  If you look at from the kids' point of view, I think it would be tiring and I think it's actually better for them to have one main place to live but to spend as much time as possible with the other parent.  That's the way it was in my situation--my kids lived with me but they saw their father about 3 times a week and I would never restrict the time they spent with him.

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Registered: 10-12-2000

I didn't have a very high opinion of her after reading that statement.  I also understand that circumstances are different within each family, but she was making general statements about 50/50 custody and I think the message she sent was self-centered and way out of line.