Keeping momentos

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Registered: 03-10-2006
Keeping momentos
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Wed, 12-06-2006 - 2:09pm
When your child makes momentos at school/youth group do you share them with the NCP? What if they made a "mother's day" or "father's day" gift? What about holiday gifts? If they live with you do you feel those things should go only to bioparents, alternate giving to stepfather & stepmother? What do you do with one time momentos? Do you make sure to request when possible that two projects are made for each home?
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Registered: 09-02-2004
In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 2:21pm

I don't request my child make two gifts projects at school because that's a hardship for the teacher and theres' usually not enough time. Sometimes it's kept at my house, sometimes at Dad's. Child decides. Some of her awards/trophies are kept in her room at Mom's house, some at Dad's house. Photos can be copied and shared.

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Registered: 04-28-2003
In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 2:48pm

DH doesn't get anything from SD school except a father's day gift, and back in the day BM used to make SD give the gift to #2 and not DH.

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Registered: 03-28-2003
In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 4:02pm

Man, I wish! Before DH and BM got into a 4 year old court battle, yes, BM would send DH some of SD's artwork and any extra pictures she had. You know, the ones where part of SD's head is cut off, the out of focus ones, etc. He was happy to get anything though.

He hasn't seen anything in 4 years. He hasn't gotten a school picture since kindergarten (SD is in 2nd grade). To make up for this, we always plan craft activities when SD is here. Decorating plates, making pottery, making jewerly, doing a sticker picture, etc, etc, etc. Everything is either kept with us or sent to DH's mom.

DH recently got SD's teacher to agree to fax DH one of SD's assignments every month. SD is a great student, but since we live 1200 miles away, we never get to see any of her work, so the teacher is going to start sending him some stuff so he can see how well she does.

We keep EVERYTHING in a huge memory box especially for SD.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 9:53pm
BM typically hoards all projects of SS's. She was "kind enough" to give DH one paint splatter painting that SS did which has been on our fridge since the day it was received. DH was very upset when he went over to her house and saw that she had so many of SS's projects just tossed into a big plastic garbage bag for "storage" like they were nothing.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 9:56pm
If they make something for their dad, it is his. They will specify who they made it for.
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Registered: 09-14-2003
In reply to: tea_time
Wed, 12-06-2006 - 10:07pm

DH didn't get anything for about three years. Until the skids were old enough to start insisting. Heck, DH didn't get report cards for either skid, school photos, medical information (including a list of YSD's allergies, etc).

She only started giving him anything after the second round of contempt.




Edited 12/6/2006 10:16 pm ET by fayncstep