Keeping Secrets From BM
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|Fri, 09-24-2010 - 7:28am|
I have a friend who has an SD15 - almost 16. They are close in a friends kind of way not a mother/daughter kind of way. They talk, share clothing, go to concerts..things like that.
BM made it clear years ago that she wanted SD to hate SM and SD has given BM the impression that she has complied even though it's not true.
SD confides in SM that she is sexually active with her boyfriend. She has not confided in BM since BM is the type to react in a very bad, OTT way, nor has she confided in BD because she isn't comfy talking about sex with BD. SM waited for the right moment and disclosed the sexual activity to BD. When BD asked for SM's opinion, SM suggested that it would be best to get the child on BC since it wasn't likely that she would stop the sexual activity. BD agreed but left the particulars to SM as he sees it as a girly thing. BD will not tell BM because she will 'flip a lid' and there is no way she will allow the child to be on birth control.
There's more to the story but I'll leave it at that for now.
Should BD give permission for birth control for teenage SD without discussing it with BM?
Given that SM has dad's permission, is it OK for her chauffeur the child to dr to get on BC and be the 'friend' who is there for her (Type of BC will probably be implants in the arm)?
Was SM wrong to go to BD with the knowledge that SD was sexually active?
Edited 9/24/2010 7:40 am ET by m4s2_2