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|Tue, 09-21-2010 - 11:26am|
Sunday was a little weird. We had Son’s 12th birthday party. And both Ex and SO were there. They’ve been around each other before…but only because our girls played on the same soccer team (before we started dating). I knew it was going to be a hard day for SO, but GEESH! I need to better learn how to make him feel comfortable…maybe time will help?
Ex was actually really nice all day Sunday. Even paid half of the party and ALMOST half of hockey registration. Nothing for Daughter’s soccer, but I’m going to be happy he’s at least helping with something.
It was weird for SO, though, with Ex in my house, around my sister, etc. I was VERY thankful that one of my good friends was there who really likes SO and he likes her…so they chatted a lot. My sister and Ex were VERY chatty, though, which isn’t bad…I think it’s good, but hard for the new guy. While the kids played laser tag, the four of us sat at a table and chatted…but it was hard for SO because it was a lot of family type stuff, and SO is so new…ya know?
On a sweet note, SO got Son a new bb gun. Son is OVER THE FREAKING MOON about it. I mean, he has guns and stuff at his dad’s house, but this is one he can use at my house, and he’s super excited. And now he likes SO even more…lol…
So...I’ve never really run into this before. SO is sooo quiet. None of my friends/family/ex are. So…how do I help? How do I make him more comfortable, and give him that feeling that I am HIS??? I tried to stay close to him, hold his hand, talk to him, etc…but it’s hard when it’s a kid’s party…ya know?
I'm putting this in debate because I"m SURE there are differing opinions on this...and I don't want anyone to hold back. :) How do you make your spouse/SO feel like THEY are the center of your universe when you're friendly with your ex at joint events?