No love for the stepkids?
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|Mon, 04-22-2013 - 3:52pm|
This has been debated on these boards before, and i thought was an interesting point of view. I ran across this anonymous confession on mommyish.com, the writer is talking about how she doesn't want to have a connection with her stepkids. While she respects them and treats them well, she tends to keep them at arms length. She'll do what they ask of her, but also prefers to back off so they can spend time with their dad.
Maybe I’m being pro-active. I know mothers who detest their stepchildren. I don’t want to detest them. If I don’t get too close to them, they will never detest me or yell at me, nor will I detest them.
Isn’t it enough just to have a calm household? Do I need to love them? Yes, it is very difficult to be a child of divorce and then have your parent remarry and to shuffle between two homes.
But when it comes to blended families, and children who are not your own, can’t just getting along with them be “enough?”
Read more: http://www.mommyish.com/2013/03/28/i-dont-love-my-stepchildren/#ixzz2RDu90i1G
What do you think about her POV? While I think she's on the right track in some respects, like leaving the parenting to their dad, I still wonder how the kids view the relationship. Do you think they feel like they are accepted by their stepmom, or does that matter?