School vs. Financial Support

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Registered: 09-12-2009
School vs. Financial Support
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Fri, 10-01-2010 - 11:52am

CP attending graduate school full time and doesn't work.

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Registered: 12-10-2007
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:05pm

Should CP not be required to work if attending school

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:13pm
CP doesn't *have* to work but NCP doesn't *have* to keep paying the same either now that NCP is making less cash.
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Registered: 09-13-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:20pm

If this is the best job NCP can find ( which imho is likely, heah, any job is good these days), then yeah, his CS will go down.

A Stepparent is as much a parent as an ex-wife is a wife.
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Registered: 09-12-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:24pm

CP shouldn't be required to work, but NCP also shouldn't be required to cover CP's share if the CP is willingly not working. Life happens. Divorce happens. Sometimes we have to change our plans to better provide for our children, and that includes maybe going to school part time instead of full time, and getting a job.



I agree. CP and NCP never married. NCP was coach and CP was fulltime grad student when they met. NCP has been telling CP that has to get a job and can't depend on NCP to support CP & child.



Absolutely not. Both parents should be financially contributing to the child/ren. CP doesn't have to work, but can't expect NCP to pick up the slack.



I agree again. If NCP was fulltime student and got a none student pregnant, NCP would not get a free pass to not support the child. NCP would be ordered to pay CS and would have to either work part time or full time to pay it. NCP would have no choice or risk loss of license and/or

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Registered: 09-13-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:27pm
Dont agree.
A Stepparent is as much a parent as an ex-wife is a wife.
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Registered: 09-12-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:37pm

If CP was going to school when she got pregnant, she should be allowed a reasonable time to finish whatever degree or program she was working on.



What if the sitch was reversed? What if CP were working FT and NCP was a FT student? Should NCP be allowed a reasonable time to finish whatever degree he was working on before being responsible for CS?



Being a full time student doesn't excuse a parent from financially supporting their child. Who is to foot the bill while the CP uses a reasonable time to finish their degree? Who defines what is a reasonable time BTW?

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Registered: 09-13-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:40pm

As to reasonable time, most universities (at least in US) will provide average years to obtain a degree.

A Stepparent is as much a parent as an ex-wife is a wife.
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Registered: 01-20-2010
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 12:52pm

Yes I realize people can work PT. I just think people should make babies with someone and then expect them to change.>>>

Divorce changes a lot of things. I just don't understand why she cannot work some. My girl goes to college FT with a full load and works PT. So do two of my nieces, so did I.

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Registered: 12-10-2007
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 2:01pm

Divorce changes a lot of things. I just don't understand why she cannot work some. My girl goes to college FT with a full load and works PT. So do two of my nieces, so did I.



Ditto.



Mom can work if she doesn't like dad's CS going down. It isn't his job to support her anymore.



If the roles were reversed, I wonder if anyone would be OK with dad being in school full time, parents get divorced, he isn't working therefor doesn't feel the need to pay CS?

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Registered: 12-31-2009
Fri, 10-01-2010 - 5:07pm

Should CP not be required to work if attending school

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