Sharing a Bed

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Sharing a Bed
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Thu, 09-23-2010 - 1:19pm

What do you think is/isn't appropriate with siblings sharing beds? What if the children aren't siblings at all? (two people dating with children, etc)



Does gender matter?



Does age matter?



Does it matter if they are fully biological

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Registered: 09-09-2008
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 1:46pm
Prior to our move into a 3bedroom, all 3 kids slept in DSs room. He had bunkbeds. DS slept in one bed, SD slept in the other. SS would
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Registered: 12-22-2009
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 1:49pm

Eeh, I don't know.

Are the kids sharing a bed because they *want* to share a bed? Or because there is no space for them?

My DD (5) and my DSD(12) love to sleep in the same bed. But they have their own beds, etc. They just choose to, and we are fine with it. But they are being raised together. Not sure if that makes a difference.

And just thinking that often if kids have sleepovers with friends, they frequently share a bed, right?

I don't think there is much you can do about it if the kids are younger. I would hope that the OP would be working to get at least another bed in the room so that the kids had the option of sleeping in their own space, though. Honestly, if it really bothered me, I would probably just suck it up and buy a mattress and boxspring for my child to give to the OP.

I highly doubt this even helps at all, lol. I blame the drugs ;)

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Registered: 09-18-2006
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 1:58pm
<<What do you think is/isn't appropriate with siblings sharing beds? What if the children aren't siblings at all? (two people dating with children, etc)

Does gender matter?



Does age matter?



Does it matter if they are fully biological



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Registered: 12-10-2007
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:03pm

BD has always usually lived in either a one or two bedroom apartment. For several months when the kids were younger they all slept in the same bed. I was just glad he had a roof over their head and he didn't live at his mom's anymore.



They now live in a 2 bedroom. DS (almost 6) and exDSD (will be 9 on Sunday) share a bed.



I was wondering people's thoughts about it. I personally find it inappropriate - but BD will be deploying soon for a year and it's not something I would push right now, nor do I think it would do any good anyway.



I don't think right now DS finds it uncomfortable, but when BD gets back DS will be 7 1/2 and exDSD will be 10 1/2, and I think they may feel more uncomfortable with it then.



He does have a couch and floor one of them can sleep on if they start feeling uncomfortable with it - and I think they would probably express it if they did. They aren't really over there enough for it to be a huge issue IMO, just curious how other people felt about it.



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Registered: 09-18-2006
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:08pm
Just out of curiosity...


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Registered: 12-10-2007
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:15pm

Just out of curiosity...

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Registered: 01-20-2010
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:17pm

SS used to get into SD's bed all the time in the middle of the night after we broke him of trying to get into ours. He did it for three years finally had to stop when LG girl moved in who had to share with SD until we moved.

I think when they hit puberty boys need to be with boys and girls with girls in their own bed and rooms. Although, even at almost 18, 17 and 14 they fall asleep in the oldest bed (its a king) watching tv. 18 and 17 year old consider themselves related and have a huge gross factor on implying they would try anything with each other. When we camp and they tent it, they stay in the same tent when it's just the three of them.

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Registered: 12-10-2007
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:27pm

I'm not a fan of cosleeping. DS has never coslept with us (BD and me or DH and me). He will sometimes crawl into bed with us in the mornings and sometimes wants to sleep with us, but I've always thought it's important for him to sleepy by himself, even when it was just me and him.

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Registered: 01-20-2010
In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:43pm
I am fully against co sleeping. I guess that's where the marriage come first clause comes in!! It was so hard to break SS of it, it took years, I wanted to strangle my DH for starting it.
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In reply to: bsmommy2004
Thu, 09-23-2010 - 2:47pm
LOL Yeah I know what you mean. I think it's important for children to be independent and sleep in their own beds - I also think it's important for spouses to be able to enjoy their own space and bedroom (wink wink) at night without children sleeping in between and keeping (wink wink) from happening :).

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