SM's Role? What is overstepping?
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|Wed, 12-06-2006 - 1:29pm|
What is overstepping?
In my situation, it would be SD calling me mommy, my imposing my thoughts on what goes on at BM's house on BM (that's what DH is for), spanking her, undermining BM's authority in her own home and passing myself off as SD's mom. Stepping onto any time that is not our parenting time without DH would also not be ok.
What I don't think is overstepping:
Imposing and enforcing our house rules (DH & I set these jointly, but whoever catches bad behavior calls the time out, gives the reminder or takes away the toy)
Assigning chores (this amounts to pick up your toys or your clothes)
Reading stories, giving baths, making meals, riding bikes, coloring or playing cars (etc). DH does these things too, but we sometimes trade off.
Spending small amounts of time independently with SD. DH occasionally has to run to meetings, help his mom with something or run to the store. Our Thanksgiving plans got completely screwed up because DH had to work at the last minute, and I ended up taking SD to his family's gathering and he joined us (much) later. SD was looking forward to seeing them and they to seeing her and we couldn't dissapoint any of them. At times, I'm off to run errands and she wants to come too so I take her for an hour or 2.
I am always the goddess of the potty. Always.