SS manipulation?

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Registered: 03-24-2012
SS manipulation?
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Sat, 03-24-2012 - 6:47pm

I know this isn't a support board, but I know that you ladies won't hold back... so give it to me... What do you think?

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Wed, 04-04-2012 - 5:08pm

"you would have read where I would have fully supported dad in terminating moms parental rights when she disappeared."

I did read that, but nobody is WANTING to take the rights away from the mother. What the poster is wanting is for the child to treat her with respect... THATS it... nothing more... she WANTS the child to love his mother... she isn't WANTING that to stop but the MOTHER is hindering the relationship between the boy and his family.

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Wed, 04-04-2012 - 5:26pm

just so that you know, you keep throwing around this "terminating moms parental rights when she disappeared" This is harder than you think it is, XH left us for 5 years, and i brought this to the judge and they wouldn't do it... AND i had proof that XH was also extremely abusive to me when he was around... the only thing i could do was get a restraining order... but i laughed and said "He has been gone for 5 years, i don't think he would be coming back.... but i was wrong, he came back into my life... and he is heavily involved with the children

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Wed, 04-04-2012 - 11:36pm

Sigh.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Thu, 04-05-2012 - 9:24am

"For example, she's not supposed to call pass 7pm. She calls usually around 650 or so. So one day she called at 6:55pm and talked with him. DH was at school, so when 7pm hit, she said "well I don't want your dad to get mad at me, so I'll get off the phone now"... Really? You don't say things like that. And most likely DH wouldn't have gotten mad at her... He would've let them finish their conversation."

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Fri, 04-06-2012 - 4:04pm

i find it funny that my reply has 25 views, but no comments

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Sat, 04-07-2012 - 3:17pm
lovemybabygirl11 wrote:

I have asked him before... and he always says "I don't know".... or nothing. When someone doesn't talk when you are asking questions, there's not much you can do.

I definitely think he is hurting and feels like if he loves/likes me then he's not being loyal.

I'm the BM of 3 adult dd's, but he needs consoling. Can y'all get him into some? It may help

~~Sam stitches well with others, runs with scissors in her pocket. Cheerful and stupid.
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Sun, 04-08-2012 - 3:30am

Sorry, it's been a hectic week with school (finals) and work.

Let me clear some things up: BM didn't abandon him like one would think. She fled to a different state without informing DH about it and tried to file for divorce and custody while not a resident of that said state. Because she did it illegally, DH automatically "won" custody of SS. During the 3 years that BM was living in her home

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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 9:28am

"Let me clear some things up: BM didn't abandon him like one would think. She fled to a different state without informing DH about it and tried to file for divorce and custody while not a resident of that said state. Because she did it illegally, DH automatically "won" custody of SS. During the 3 years that BM was living in her home

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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 4:46pm

Oh and the reason why BM's rights weren't terminated is there has to be zero contact for 6 months... she would call approximately every two or three months. And I could only adopt him if DH and I were married for a good amount of time... now, if we were able, I'd adopt him... but back then 1) I couldn't legally and 2) I didn't think she would ever come back and at the time, we thought that what DH had in writing (him having full custody) was it... we didn't know the process of family law. Now I have educated myself a bit about it...

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Mon, 04-09-2012 - 4:50pm

for you to adopt him, she has to give up her rights asa mother. AND to have her rights terminated TECHNICALLY she has to have no contact for 6months, but it is STILL up to the judge to be willing to terminate them... I had no contact from XH for YEAES on end, no CS no calls, no visitation... they STILL wouldn't terminate his rights... then he showed back up...