Taking the skids out of state
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|Fri, 10-01-2010 - 11:30am|
SM's- If there is no court order stating that either parent must notify the OP of out-of-state travel during their period of custody, do you and your SO feel obligated to inform the the other parent of your vacation plans with the children during your period of custody?
BM's- Would you contact your ex's parents if you couldn't reach your ex, during a non-emergency situation?
DH got a new phone, and didn't fully charge it. We're going camping this weekend, just over the border into Oklahoma. (We're in Texas) We have evening possession of SD's on Thursday nights, from the time they get off school, till 8pm. Last night, after dropping off SD's with BM's LIBF, DH went to the grocery store for a last-minute supply run, since we leave today. He had his phone with him, but it died. Shortly after he left, I got a very concerned phone call from DH's dad, saying that BM had called him, freaking out about DH taking the kids across state lines without her permission. Right after I hung up with him, I got this email:
"-you need to discuss with me before you take the girls across state lines. I need to know who you are going be with, why, how long you will be gone, and what you will be doing why you are gone before I will consent to you crossing state lines with them. Not answering the phone is a childish response and I have no problem finding you guys at and following your every move to ensure my daughters safety. You are not good at camping and have very little knowledge of how to handle yourself in intense wilderness situations and unless you relieve my fears that you are with someone who can handle the situation or take care of my children then I will have no choice but to travel to and protect them myself."
CC'd to both his work email, home email, and my email.
Nowhere in their divorce decree does it state that the other parent must be consulted before taking the children across state lines. It speaks to moving out of state, and changing residences, but not to vacations. There's no restraining orders on DH, nothing at ALL that would suggest that she has any right to have any input on where we go and what we do with the skids on our time.
Also, the place where we're camping is hardly an intense wilderness. It's a park. There are showers and laundry facilities. You can drive into the campsites. Hardly roughing it.
DH comes home and plugs his phone in. BM had called once, and sent a text. I'm not sure why she felt she needed to call my FIL.