Tell your stories

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Tell your stories
Fri, 08-27-2010 - 6:04am

Since we have some new posters who find it hard to believe that any of us (or our spouses/partners) have dealt with crazy before, why don't we tell our stories for them?

In the interests of saving time, let's assume that this will be a sux thread :o)

I'll start. SO's ex had a string of affairs and is still with the last OM, the one that finally ended the marriage. He met me about 2 years after the split. About 6 mos into our relationship, she called him up crying that she wanted him back, couldn't they make it work for SD's sake, etc. I was lying beside him at the time. She regularly did these drunken midnight calls for a few weeks. One time she called him when her and SF were having a flaming row and SO could hear SD crying in the background. She was probably about 6 at the time, and it was 1am on a school night.

BM wanted to take SD to Zimbabwe. SO refused permission for her to leave the country, and BM did not let him speak to SD for the next three weeks. We still don't know what happened during that time, which was when they had planned to go.

BM drove drunk and put her car into a wall, with SD in the back seat. She got them home and instructed SD to lie to the police so that BM wouldn't lose her licence.

Mine is one of the calmer sitchs though - let's hear from the ones who have really gone through hell with their exes/spouse's exes.

edited for clarity

Edited 8/27/2010 6:17 am ET by englishrose1979


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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 6:18am
Do I HAVE to? I already did it in the other thread for point making purposes. ;_;
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 6:20am

Oh yes, you've got one of the freekiest ones on board! Pretty please with a cherry on top?

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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 7:56am
WTF, I wrote an essay! I'm really hesitant about posting it... so I copied and pasted into notepad until someone gives me the 'go ahead'.
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:07am
hope you didn't miss it :)

Edited 8/27/2010 2:19 pm ET by harmony08
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:10am
As much as I dont care for the BM in my sitch, I have to admit, she doesnt put me in a position to provide 'crazy' stories. Thank you making me realize that appreciation that I do have for her :). I guess I will sit on the sidelines of this one and just read since I have nothing to contribute. LOL
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:11am

well... since you wrote an essay too...

(I may need to make a point that BM is NOT a bad mother overall. Most issues are just BM being BM)

I'd call my sitch calm atm because BM doesn't do these things any more. (To me and SO at least, I can't speak for anyone else) Mostly because SO took the right path and decided to IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE and always made a point to tell me the same thing even when I've been foaming at the mouth fighting the urge to bite back! I am so glad I didn't because then we'd be in a real mess then!

I was waiting for soneone else to reply first because I really don't want to post a sux when we're getting on. Didn't you hear? We're besties now. ;P (Yes she called me 'darl' by text because I'm so helpful)


Everything else is general disagreements over time, child issues and so on. Not unlike but like I said "IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE"

It's all in the past, can't change the past. Dwelling on the past won't do much good. I took a step last week, resolved some unresolved issues with me and her. She and SO will always have their disagreements, but it certainly won't help to make a bad situation worse by bitching about it continuously years and years later, kwim?
She's calmed down a LOT in recent months. I wouldn't be surprised if major issues were few and far between in years to come.

Point being though... you think I don't know crazy? Chit happens, but it doesn't mean she's all round crazy.
She left DSD with me once and made a point to tell me she was going the doctors to get checked out because she might have bi-polar disorder. 2 hours later she returns with a clean bill of mental health. So there we have it. No personality disorders here. Just a few mistakes, some bad judgment and some bad handling of the situation.

SO was about as much to blame as her on oc...

Edited 8/27/2010 12:01 pm ET by ladylike_nima
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:14am

I have no idea what "... " means so I'll just add what the post took off:

...SO was about as much to blame as her on occasion when they've had their arguments, we know that. You get emotional, you get angry, you say something you regret. It happens.

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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:18am
Omg Harmony, that is just awful! You truly are one classy lady. I would never have guessed that you have/had such a horrid BM in your life. Just wow.
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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:37am

You ladies have an awful lot of crap to put up with.

Makes our BM look like Mary friggin' Poppins.

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Fri, 08-27-2010 - 8:47am

Omg Harmony, that is just awful! You truly are one classy lady. I would never have guessed that you have/had such a horrid BM in your life. Just wow


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