Text/Email communication only?

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Text/Email communication only?
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Thu, 02-21-2013 - 10:25am

Is it best if you only communicate via email or text? If you are dealing with a very difficult parent (ex spouce) I find it easier to only communicate via email/text. Occasional phone calls usually end up with pissed off BM in our case... so it is easier to deal with things over text or email. what type of things are totally necessary to talk about with verbal communication instead of text/email, excluding of course imediate emergencies, ie. hospital visit totally necessary.

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Registered: 07-07-2011
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 12:04pm

If you have a volatile relationship with the other parent, than I would totally contain it to written communication. I would also keep copies of all of it in case there are issues later on. It's sad that it has to happen this way, but you have to protect yourself. Are you really careful about how you word things so she can't confuse what you are saying? I could see manipulative person being deliberately obtuse in order to cause problems.  

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Thu, 02-21-2013 - 3:11pm
exactly. you are 100% right DH's exwife is extremely manipulative. he is very careful to word things very carefully, and when keeping everything textual he saves every email he sends and recieves, and he also sends every text conversation to his email and saves it there. but i am wondering, when doing this, should EVERYTHING be email/text (except true life/death or serious injury), or are there any reasons this isn't a good idea?
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Registered: 07-07-2011
Tue, 02-26-2013 - 3:14pm
It does hinder developing a decent relationship, but some relationships just can't improve no matter how hard to try on your end. If it's the safer way, than I can't see where it would do harm. As you said, in an emergency it would be better to call. Other than that, stick to the written word.