Truth or Lies?

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Registered: 11-13-2008
Truth or Lies?
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Tue, 04-02-2013 - 3:57pm

I thought the following article was interesting, it discusses whether you should lie to your child if they ask questions about your break-up or the behavior or the other parent.  

Kids hate to hear one parent talk badly about the other. So the first line of defense I'd recommend is to avoid topics where, if you're being honest, you have to say something negative about the child's other parent. If I had to choose between having a parent lie and having them tell the truth (when telling the truth means trashing the child's other parent) I'd tell them to lie. It's just too hurtful to children to hear one parent talk badly about the other.

Read more: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/claire-n-barnes-ma/should-split-parents-ever_b_2964221.html?utm_hp_ref=parents&ir=Parents

Are there times that it's better to be truthful with the child?  Should you be honest about an affair?  What if one parent keeps flaking out on visitation, should you make excuses them that aren't true?  

At what age is it appropriate to be truthful with them?

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Mon, 04-15-2013 - 3:33pm

I wouldn't tell a child any more than ABSOLUTELY necessary about the other parent, whether it is good or bad, i would allow the child to come to thier OWN conclusions. It is NEVER appropriate to talk negatively about the other parent to the child. If there was an affair, this is none of the child's business, and does not need to be discussed.