Twist on Is it reasonable?

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Twist on Is it reasonable?
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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 9:05pm

It seems the majority thinks that BD continues to keep paying for his portion of daycare while mom is on maternity leave since mom is still employeed.



My sister is a teacher. She was telling me how she can choose to have a bigger monthly income, but only paid September-June OR she can have asmaller monthly income and get paid year round. Both options equal the same pay per year.



Pretend she choose the round year option, has kids, is divorced, and BD is CO to pay 50% daycare when she's working. She doesn't have a summer job.



Should BD pay for his share of daycare over the summer?



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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 11:13pm

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The biggest question for me would be, will she lose her spot if she takes them out of daycare over the summer. As the OP, I'd have just as much concern for where the kids were spending their time as the CP. If they were already at a good daycare, I'd be willing to help make sure that the spot(s) was still available at the end of summer.

I remember waiting 6 months for a preferred daycare spot (and in the meantime, DS stayed with someone I was less comfortable with). I'd have been really upset to lose it and maybe have to leave the kid at a center I didn't like as much. That's something that some non-parents or some parents who haven't yet had to start looking for daycare, don't seem to understand. That finding a daycare isn't like arranging to store furniture. You might not like the first bunch of affordable sitters you meet, and not liking them is enough to say "no way". Just try leaving your kid with someone who you don't feel comfortable with. That's why, when you do like your child's sitter, you don't want to lose them.

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Sun, 09-26-2010 - 11:32pm

I think a few factors would matter like, how old are the kids, what did the parents do when they were married, what is typical for teachers, or what did the parents do before the parent opted to be paid year round, and also what does the CO say.

Say the child was in preschool that went year round. Do the parents see a benefit to preschool? If the child would be enrolled in preschool even if one parent was SAH, and the CO says the parents split the cost of preschool, then both parents are obligated for preschool costs even in the summer.

Say the child was in a school year program and was off for the summer, do the parents value summer camp? I know parents who SAH and they regularly send their kids to summer camp. They don't go from 7-5 like they might if the parent was working, but say go from 9-3pm. Maybe not every week either, but throughout the summer kids around us generally go camps for the experience of it. Art camps, horseback riding camps, science camps, general camps where they might go swimming and play sports. It's a fun thing for kids to do in the summer. I'd say this falls under the category of extra curriculars. If both parents pay for the kids to be in gymnastics, or play baseball, then I'd think both would share the cost of summer camps where there was a pattern of sending the kids to summer camp.

If when the parents were married the children were usually home with the teacher-parent in the summer and not in summer camps, then regardless of how the teacher-parent is paid I'd think the standard is set that the kids don't go to daycare/camp in the summer. That is the standard the parents can be held to after divorce, and I wouldn't think the parents would be obligated to split the costs unless they both agreed to it.

But then let's change it and say the teacher-parent usually SAH with the kids in the summer and did not send them to summer camp or preschool or anything because even though the parent was paid all year round the parent was AH all summer. But suddenly now the parent takes on a summer job working through the summer and needs to enroll the kids in a camp or daycare program. Now there are two changes that may need to happen. One the parents are probably going to share the cost of the camp/daycare and two the child support may need to change if the one parent's income has increased substantially due to the extra summer work.

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 4:44am
Depends. If she chooses the 10 month plan, does BD pony up increased CS during the summer when BM is "unemployed"?

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 6:12am
No. Regardless of how she chooses to be paid. She's not working. Therefore, by the terms of the CO, BD is not required to pay.
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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 6:42am

"No. Regardless of how she chooses to be paid. She's not working. Therefore, by the terms of the CO, BD is not required to pay."

I agree.

 

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 6:43am

"Depends. If she chooses the 10 month plan, does BD pony up increased CS during the summer when BM is "unemployed"?"

Her annual income hasn't changed, just her monthly because she chose to have a bigger check every month.

 

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 7:10am

Her annual income hasn't changed



Neither has her employment status.

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 7:12am

"Neither has her employment status."

So then how would she go back to have the CS increased if she's employed and makes the same salary as she was before?

 

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 8:37am

I think it depends on what they agree on as well as history (did she keep the children home with her during the summers while they were married?).

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Mon, 09-27-2010 - 11:06am

I think it depends on what normally happens during the summers.