Unwanted Callers

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Registered: 07-31-2009
Unwanted Callers
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Mon, 08-23-2010 - 8:23am

Child lives with BD/SM.

At one point, SM had a legal issue with one of BM's friends emailing her place of work, posing as another person in an attempt to gather information for BM. This issue was very upsetting to SM, as her workplace had to get involved, and it was brought up in a custody case between BM and DH.

Out of the blue, this person begins to call child at BD/SM's home "just to chat". This includes leaving messages on the general answering machine.

SM is very upset by these calls, as it brings back memories of the events that occurred, and basically just makes her very angry.

Debate: Does SM have the right to dictate what people can/cannot call her stepchild on her and BD's home phone?

FTR: BD is on board with whatever SM chooses to do (including blocking the number), but since this is SM's 'decision', I wanted to ask from just SM's POV. I don't want to pretend this is also BD's decision....he is basically on board with whatever SM wants to do.

**Person could continue to call child on her cell phone. SM's issue is having to hear the voice of a person who caused her a great deal of personal grief.

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Registered: 02-04-2009
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 8:30am
I'd have my lawyer send a cease and desist letter with the promise of escalation to legal action if she continues to pursue this course of harassment. Her calls aren't welcome; it's no crime to tell her so, nor to take steps to make her stop.

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Registered: 06-19-2009
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 8:55am
I'd block the number nad not say another word about it unless asked.

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Registered: 04-11-2008
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 8:55am

Debate: Does SM have the right to dictate what people can/cannot call her stepchild on her and BD's home phone?


Yes, it's her phone, and especially yes given the history. If this person wants to talk to the child AND the child wants to talk to them then use the mobile. I'd have the number blocked personally.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 9:22am

Debate: Does SM have the right to dictate what people can/cannot call her stepchild on her and BD's home phone?


Yes she does. I have every right to dictate who can/cannot call my home phone. ESPECIALLY if the child has secondary means of communication (i.e. cellphone). I got my home# changed specifically so BM could not call it and didnt think twice about it.

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Registered: 07-23-2010
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 9:55am
Yes, SM can block the number. To me, this is just a virtual way of SM saying "you may not come in my home to visit this child." I see no difference.
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Registered: 07-04-2010
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 10:17am

Debate: Does SM have the right to dictate what people can/cannot call her stepchild on her and BD's home phone?


No, but Dad does and should, in this case, imo.

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Registered: 04-11-2008
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 10:47am
Why does BD have the right and not SM? It's her phone, phoneline and phone bill too.

 

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Registered: 09-09-2008
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 10:56am

Why does BD have the right and not SM? It's her phone, phoneline and phone bill too.


Yep. I changed the # and didnt tell DH til after it was done. He doesnt even use the home phone ever. He didnt care. BM shouldnt have called it to begin with.

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Registered: 11-07-2004
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 1:28pm

Debate: Does SM have the right to dictate what people can/cannot call her stepchild on her and BD's home phone?


**Person could continue to call child on her cell phone. SM's issue is having to hear the voice of a person who caused her a great deal of personal grief


Yes, I think SM has the absolute right to dictate - and screen the caller ID and not pick up, nor pass the phone over to the child.

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Registered: 03-07-2008
Mon, 08-23-2010 - 2:02pm
Yes. I like Puss' idea of a cease and desist letter. She's already harassed you before so I wouldn't want her to have an in at all.

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