WDYT of this provision?

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Registered: 09-23-2008
WDYT of this provision?
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Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:25am

CO provision that requires children to be brought home (to the CP) upon their own request.

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Registered: 04-27-2007
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:32am

Strange provision.

Is there a history of abuse or neglect? The only way I can see that in a CO is if it's a follow-up to supervised visitation. For ex., something like 3 months of supervised followed by 3 months of that provision followed by removal of that provision. Something like that.

That is, the only way I could see that provision is if something has gone on at the NCP's home in the past that makes that provision reasonable.

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Registered: 04-27-2007
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:36am

Now having said what I said about the CO, I will admit that if my children really wanted to come home, my ex would bring them home.

But he wouldn't agree to it to put it in the CO. What if one child wanted to and the other didn't. He would have to spend another 4 hours on the road for one child...a total of 8 hours for a weekend visit. Not likely. Or what if they wanted to come home in the middle of an activity or outing?

I think he would be glad to bring them home, if he could, but he would not allow himself to be "ordered" to do so.

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Registered: 09-23-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:45am

It's a pretty friendly situation.

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Registered: 11-26-2007
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:48am

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oh that's weird, I was thinking maybe they were older teens. DH doesn't have a provision like this but he is bound to a standard agreement that says once the kid turns 14, they can decide what they want to do.

I wouldn't be keen on this provision with young kids if I was the parent they can leave whenever they want. Too much power for little ones, IMO. Instead a well thought out time share for younger kids would have been wise.

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Registered: 09-23-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:48am

Everyone is local in this scenario.


I do think it gives the children to much power to be able end visitation like that.

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Registered: 04-27-2007
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:50am


I can't see the provision. In my mind, if it's very friendly, then just trust the NCP to bring the kids home. Why put it in the order? It seems to me that putting in the order is stating that we agree on this now but I don't want the NCP to be able to reconsider later. Which is reasonable in many cases. But, in mind, not in this case.

My ex did bring the kids home when they wanted to come home, especially when they were very young and not used to being w/out Mommy. But he would have never agreed to an order. He would want it to be at his own discretion.

But my ex is the one who insisted on a reasonable visitation CO. He would never willingly agree to any specific order from a court.

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Registered: 09-23-2008
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:53am
As a CP, *I* wouldn't want it!

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Registered: 04-27-2007
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 8:54am

I didn't think of the discipline issue. You're right. Not a good provision.

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Registered: 09-13-2009
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 9:57am
I think it is kinda strange, is the issue that ncp doesnt know kids that well?
A Stepparent is as much a parent as an ex-wife is a wife.
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Registered: 03-02-2010
Sat, 08-21-2010 - 10:08am

I think it could be a good provision if the child has some sort of special needs that a safe home base helps them calm down or something.

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