What do we do? Sorry long

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Registered: 04-27-2012
What do we do? Sorry long
Fri, 04-27-2012 - 9:50am
After 2 years of marriage and being a full time parent to my two beautiful skids. Their mom told my husband and I that she had gotten married and wanted tk go back to original 50/50 custody agreement. We agreed. About 5 months later we find out that they live in squallor and have moved 9+ times in 5 Mos! The teachers have voiced concerns as they are.not clean and tired in class every othet week. We have petitioned for full custody bug my husband has.offered her all summer and holiday breaks and no child support. He just wants themcto have a clean bome and stability during school year. She counter petitions for full custody and child support. And here's the kicker she isnt legaly married!!!!!!! And her husband doesnt know! how is that? She has told the children that their dad is trying to take them away. That I send her horrjble messages and curse at her in them. her oldest son asked to see them.....she said she erased them on accident. When I ask her youngest how she wants her hair done for school she will start crying saying momma says you cant do my hair. WTF? Keep in mind a year ago these children were not afraid to ask me to take them to buy their mom a mothers day gift. Which I did abd even help them put it together(bath salts.kit) each child made their.own color and scent so it would be special. Oh and she refused to let them bring it.yo her. But her "husband" dud come get it 4 days later. Now they wont even talk to me when they get home. Someone please talk sense to me. I dont know what to do or how to feel. It is so hard to hide the hurt but it isnt their fault.