What if BM relinquishes rights?

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What if BM relinquishes rights?
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Thu, 03-21-2013 - 3:23pm

If the BM relinquishes rights to her child, do you think she should be allowed visitation?  Are there factors that might sway your opinion one way or another?

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Fri, 03-22-2013 - 8:38pm

Same as with BD relinquishing his rights, BM shouldn't have any further contact with the child.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 07-07-2011
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 1:21pm

That's a pretty hard stance to take.  I don't agree that you can make such a blanket statement, because every case is different.  I would have to carefully weigh all the factors involved, including the past history of their relationship and the current status of the BM.  What if the BM had a drug problem previously, has taken responsibility for her actions and has cleaned up her life?  While I would just open the door wide, I would consider what would be in the best interest of the child.   At some point in their lives the child might want to have some type of interaction with the BM.  

 

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Tue, 03-26-2013 - 12:54pm

I agree with Rangerfan, I don't know that you can set a hard and fast blanket rule, these are biological parents and circumstances are never the same and things need to be taken into consideration.  And, at least some point the child turns 18 and is free to do what they wish.

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Tue, 03-26-2013 - 9:03pm

I don't think it matters what the factors involved are.  If one reliquishes parental rights, or the rights are terminated, I do not believe they should get a do-over with the child.  If the ADULT-child chooses to involve themselves with the former-parent later, that is their choice as an adult.  As a child?  No.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Thu, 03-28-2013 - 11:40am

of course they should still be able to visit the child! unless they were going to endanger the child in anyway by doing so. but yes, i think that a child would be devestated if they were no longer able to see their parent, just because the parent wasn't a good parent, they should be able to VISIT the child.

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Thu, 03-28-2013 - 7:22pm

Relinquish means to give up.  So, if one gives up their rights to their child, or those rights are terminated, then why would they still be seeing the child? 

For that matter, if they are still going to see the child, why exactly would they relinquish their rights (or them be terminated)?  What would be the point?

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Fri, 03-29-2013 - 3:45pm

they would relinquish the rights as to not make any parental desicions for the child, and not able to keep them for over night stays, these are the things they give up.... but still are able to visit, so that the child doesn't feel abandoned... why punish the child in this way?

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Fri, 03-29-2013 - 6:01pm

Relinquishing or terminating parental rights is ALL rights to the child.  Otherwise, you are simply talking about full custody to the other parent with supervised visitation. 

A parent who would relinquish parental rights, or a parent who is so horrendous as to have parental rights terminated, generally is not a benefit for the child in the first place.  Though, exceptions do exist. Therefore, there is no punishment of the child.  In fact, in most all cases I've seen with a parent who has relinquished rights, or had their rights terminated, it's been the best thing for the child not to have further contact.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Registered: 05-14-2009
Mon, 04-01-2013 - 12:07pm

No, VISITING a child is not the same as having POSSESSION of a child. My child's father have no rights to my children but the judge DID award my children's father visitation if he ever sought it to be supervised in a specific location that would be facility that would have police officers present. there is a big difference.

there are other options, such as supervised visits that occur in the other parent's home.

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Registered: 12-12-2002
Mon, 04-01-2013 - 10:18pm

I think you're a bit confused.  If he has visitation, even supervised, then his rights were not terminated or relinquished.  If you relinquish parental rights, or they are terminated, you are no longer the legal parent of the child.

This is actually some decent info:

https://docs.google.com/viewer?a=v&q=cache:ZcyR_aqOJVsJ:www.lawhelpmn.org/resource/termination-of-parental-rights/download/A584A29C-E6E2-D589-E70C-6634B4D65BC3+&hl=en&gl=us&pid=bl&srcid=ADGEESjlsCyPWPIsENpSldx1zF5zL5TbxnhmVZj2KaNVBfFEkviyCR4BMsqeuqqUk6gRtaPSwDyAq2XwpjXzonnrVeFsZGlyaywzlphGaQy0PdLzW2dtOCnljgrXFZK1wCuHG3kY9-JP&sig=AHIEtbTdwZm5r-74Sk2bdnGW3m8pYMGMrA

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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