What would you do?

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Registered: 12-12-2002
What would you do?
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Tue, 03-13-2012 - 10:59pm

CP and NCP have joint custody with CP having Primary Placement during the school year and NCP having Primary Placement from one week after school ends until one week before school begins.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 9:54am

i would explain it to the coach, as many families are divorced and are in the same situation as you are in, the coaches tend to understand more, it is only ONE week.

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:00am
Not for school sports. It is required to play, and for one child, participation relates to grades.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:10am

talk to the coaches, have ex call the coaches, ALOT of people go out of town on spring break, what do they expect if the family decided they were going on vacation? practice being manadtory on holidays (esp regarding grades) is perposterous.

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:13am
Do you have older kids? I cannot stress enough that the kids WILL NOT play if they are not at the required practices. It's the same for basketball over winter break.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:19am

So, you are saying that if the child is in a sport, that they can not take ANY family vacations? None what so ever, except in summer? That any child on the team can not have a father that lives out of town and can not visit their father for a week? I find this rather preposterous. How can this be good for ANY child that has a father out of town? is this sport TRYING to deminish the bond between parent and child? I REALLY am having a hard time believing that this is in fact

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:24am
It's true for all schools that I know of, one they reach high school level, and sometimes junior high level. Same as back when I was in school.

Also, at least one child has a game during spring break.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:32am

i know that if they miss a practice BEFORE game day that game he sits but not ALL future games. and ESP not for grades over holiday.

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:42am
It's a participation thing. The grade is the game participation. The sitting out is losing the player's position & starting status to a player who is more dedicated and shows up to team events/practices.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:46am

so its not really a grade? ok, i see... so there is no REAL danger to the childs grades, and the child can still participate in future games... just no the one right after missing practice....

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Wed, 03-14-2012 - 10:53am
That is not what I said. There is a participation grade for practices. Child will receive a zero for week if they don't attend. There is also a grade for the game during spring break.

Formally, they will sit out of the next game, but realistically, they will lose their position as a captain and a starter, and most of their playing time, if not all, for the rest of the season.

The other child would be dropped from the spring program totally for missing.

Okmrsmommy-36, CPmom to DD-16 and DS-14

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