"keep your unvaccinated child away ..."

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Registered: 10-14-2007
"keep your unvaccinated child away ..."
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Sun, 05-18-2008 - 1:43am

I recently came across a group of mothers who basically told me, flat out, that if I were choosing not to vaccinate my child, that I need to keep her far away from their vaccinated children. Personally, I haven't decided. I know that she will be getting no vaccines until she is at least two years old. I know that I feel like if they truly believe vaccinating is effective and right, they should have no reason to fear my child. If she happens to be carrying one of the conditions others are vaccinated against (rather rare, in itself), then why would it be a problem to them?

I guess I felt incredibly patronized and offended. If they hadn't known about my choice, nothing would ever have been thought or said on the matter. In fact, I could even have lied to them and we'd all be singing kumbaya and eating marshmellows - and if one of our kids did get sick, nobody would blame me for it.

Has anyone else run into this? What did you do? How did you feel? Do you think it is warranted?

If a million people believe a foolish thing, it's still a foolish thing.
~Anatole France
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Registered: 04-06-2008
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 8:54am

That is just rude on their parts. My DD is vaccinated and will be recieving all her vaccinations except for chicken pox, and I'm not at all worried about her being around other kids, vaccinated or not. I would be more upset if someone brought their child around mine when they had a cold or the flu. Now that would make me mad. Just ignore them, or call them out to defend their statements, see what they have to say for themselves....

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Registered: 10-18-2007
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 11:37am

All the time Gina.

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Sun, 05-18-2008 - 5:06pm

I think it's a bit unfair to react the way they did. Perhaps they were aware that vaccines are not 100% effective but are under the wrong impression that children who are unvaxed are carriers of measles/VPD-of-choice, and therefore their sheer vicinity to vaccinated children makes them harmful?

This just highlights the limited knowledge the average person holds about any sphere of science, and, *for me*, emphasizes the need to establish trust in people who have really dedicated more time and energy into researching these things :)

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 7:33am

I don't vacc my children and haven't run into this problem personally, though I hear about it. Many don't understand that when THEIR child is recently vaccinated with a live strain, their child puts others at risk - but do you see any hype about that one way or the other? I don't. Personally however, I don't care. My children are around both vacc'd and unvacc'd - whooptydoo! Should my children come down with a disease (hopefully it's the wild strain and not the fallacy crap brought on by a vaccine), I guess I'll just have to do what God put me here on Earth to do and be mama and take care of my child(ren).

Rands

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Registered: 09-30-2007
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 3:10pm

Despite everything, it still hurts to have anyone imply that you aren't a good mom (which I think is sometimes implied by these statements) or that you would harm children or that your child is a abnormal.

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Registered: 05-04-2008
Mon, 05-19-2008 - 6:03pm

Despite my pro-vax stance, I adamantly say there is *nothing* about your decision to not vaccinate (IMO) that makes you a "bad" mom. If anything, the amount of time that I see anti-vax moms spending in research about these issues indicates to me great concern for the health and well-being of their kids.

There are so many people that make you feel crappy about everything, and the vaccine issue is no exception. Those moms sound like they just got defensive; you know, that pack mentality strikes when they are in groups (vax or not, BF or not, regardless of the issue). It is my experience that this happens all too often (and I have sadly been on the giving end of this :( ). But if you get a mom with which you have a difference of opinion one-on-one, most likely she'll be disarmed and simply curious about your choice.

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Registered: 04-09-2008
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 7:30am
Very nicely put.

Rands

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Registered: 12-14-2005
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 11:48am

Amen Viara that was very very well put.

To a PP, vaccination status does not worry me. I would prefer if when people's children are sick they keep them home!

My DD got rotavirus at 9 months old because playgroup was at my house for the week - Mom shows up - oh DD has the runs (actually the whole house has iy but I think she is ok, after all its contained in her diaper). My DD ended up in hospital severely dehydrated as a result. When your child is sick - keep them at home!

DD was also exposed (twice now) to CP at daycare - each time we made sure we let the people know we were going to visit DD's come into contact with CP - do you still want us to come over? Common courtesy people. ;)






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Registered: 09-30-2007
Tue, 05-20-2008 - 12:41pm
Thanks for the post.
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Registered: 06-03-2008
Thu, 06-05-2008 - 2:33pm

I'm not sure why they would not want you to socialise your child with theirs based entirely on her vaccination status.

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