New here. Have some ?'s

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Registered: 03-27-2003
New here. Have some ?'s
Wed, 04-30-2003 - 4:27pm
Please dont think im a bad Mom here. My daughter will be 4 in a few months and has been going to daycare since she was 2.

When I enrolled her they needed her Vax Card but it wasnt updated. I only had insurance on her til she was like 4 months old, and just recently got her and myself back on my insurance where I work. I think she is only updated to where a 6 or 9 month old should be. She has been healthy, rarely gets sick, etc. But I dont want to seem stupid going into a new doctor and saying I dont know where shes at with her shots but I need them up to date. Im scared she'll develope some type of reaction b/c she hasnt had them for so long.

I feel so bad you guys.. And I need some advice. I dont want her new doctor thinking Im a horrible person. But her daycare needs all the kids to be updated because its required. Please any advice would be appreciated.
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Registered: 04-30-2003
Thu, 05-01-2003 - 4:34am
You are not a bad mom - you are a human being and you fell behind in your coverage. No big deal, if your doctor can't understand that then get another one that will.

The doctor will tell you that your child will have no problem getting caught up but first get a few different opinions about how you should do it - and I mean from people whose opinion you value. When you feel you are properly informed make your own decision about it.

Do not be compelled to vaccinate her just because you want to put her in Day Care. There are, in fact, two separate issues here. One, is deciding whether you want to vaccinate her or not. The other is having someone look after her while you work.

If you need more time to think about vaccination you could hire someone to look after her in your home in the meantime. I realise this is probably an expensive option but if it were my child I would consider it worth it.

Trust yourself, and read everything you can from pro-vaccine and pro-vaccine-choice groups. I would give more value to articles that don't try to scare me through fear of disease or fear of vaccine reaction. Try to concentrate on information that is not sensational or based on emotionalism or that treats either the reader or the opposition in a disdainful manner. It's tough to find good articles but they're out there.

I wish you all the best

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-01-2003 - 9:52am

Welcome to the board! I think if you explain your situation like you did here, you should have no problems~ Here is a link to a post below that contains all sorts of links to information about vaccines:

Also, here is a link to the Schedule of Immunizations. It might shed some light on what vaccines your child needs for pre-school age entry~

And here is one for a catchup shcedule:

Good luck ~ Miki

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 05-01-2003 - 1:03pm
Thank you for your response. I really appreciate it. my daughter is already in daycare and almost in preschool. Before she can go into preschool she will need to be caught up. Her daycare just informed me that her vax's arent up to date and needs to be before September. I got her part way caught up 2 years ago when she went into daycare, but that was out of my pocket because I didnt have insurance. Now I do. Im just scared they may overload her and she may get sick or something.. Thats all. But they are doctors, so Im assuming they will know what they're talking about. LOL.

But thank you though. I really appreciate it

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Thu, 05-01-2003 - 11:57pm
Gracie - speaking as a pediatrician, I would have to tell you that we would *never* look down on any parent for their child not being "caught up" on their shots. If your child's pediatrician makes you feel bad, then I agree with the previous poster - find a new doctor.

Regarding getting sick with too many vaccines:

There are clear recommendations made by the ACIP (advisory committee on immunization practices) regarding "catch up" vaccination in children under 7 years of age. You can see the recommendations here:

HTH - Eve